Help Plz !!!!! and dont just pass it bye plz look at it?

Question

my boy friend has a secret box and he wont let me look in it
should i be woried? and wat should i do about it ??

Answer 1

No you shouldn't be worried he might just have a few possesions that he would like to keep to himself don't we all..

If you sat him down and talked about it he might be nice and give you some assurance that there is nothing bad in there if there isnt..

Good luck

Answer 2

How long have you been together?? That's my first question.. If this is someone you are going to eventually marry then, the box should be open for discussion.. However, depending on your age & his, is the box really that important?? When I met my husband 18 years ago, he had a collection of Playboy Mags in a box & I knew of them, but it did'nt bother me at all, because I felt secure.. 13 years of marriage later, the box is still in the garage & it hasn't altered our lives course 1 bit.. So is what's in the box really that important?? or are there trust issues that you are not asking in your question??? Give more info to the problem so we can better help you.... Good Luck

Answer 3

yes u should worried about it.maybe he is a criminal or a thief or something like that.its so weird really.i mean hes now ur boyfriend and hes hi dding something what if u married him????but if its money so its sick.and maybe its drogue.honestly i don't know but if u wanna know first ask and if he didn't accept to tell u.go and brake it when hes not here and than u will know.i do really respect privacy but the most important that we will be sure of our safety.im sorry but that what i would do if i was i the same place.maybe im wrong but at least u will have an answer and be sure

Answer 4

What is 'bothering you most' is that your boyfriend WANTS to keep his 'secret box' a SECRET. You are 'imagining the worst' ... could he be a serial killer who takes 'souvenirs' and hides them in there? It's probably actually just the opposite ... it may contain 'favored but broken toys' from his early childhood, small items he's inherited from relatives who have died, and probably some old 'love letters or cards.' It really DOES NOT MATTER ... because a man who has a 'secret box' he is willing to 'keep from you' is actually a really good man, who can KEEP YOUR SECRETS or RESPECT YOUR SECRETS ... so stop 'thinking about what's in his box' and give him a big kiss and hug, and tell him that you are 'sorry' you tried to get him to 'tell you' and that you know it's 'his secrets' and PROMISE to 'keep them safe' even from yourself ... and then jus FORGET ABOUT IT. Someday, he'll feel 'safe' and open the box to you ... and THAT is when you will have to 'deal with' what's inside ... but I'm willing to bet that it's AFTER you stop LAUGHING.

Answer 5

Give him his privacy. I no it is hard...... I myself am a very nosy person. However, everyone has a right to have something that is only "theirs". They shouldn't have to tell anyone about it, or answer any questions about it!

We always think the worst. He hiding something from you, or he has "SECRETS". That may not be the case. Whatever is in this box is his for now, and he's not willing to share it with anyone. He really doesn't have to. I'm sure you have your "private issues" yours may be in your head, his happens to be in a box. Just leave it alone. Don't look for trouble.

Answer 6

Just let him have his secret box! Trust is a very BIG part of a relationship and that includes letting him have his "secret box". How bad can it really be anyway I mean come on its just a box. If it is a box big enough to fit a human being then I would stat worrying.TRUST HIM DARLING!!!!!!

Answer 7

I'm not saying to look at it but just say you're cleaning and that box falls on the floor and you pick it up and ''acidententilly'' see what's inside.Now I don't want to cost you your relationship but just look inside just to make sure it's nothing bad to get the brick off your shoulder, but if it is let me give you an example let's just say that it is a picture of his old girlfriend when he get's home just '' You know what I really hate? I hate having a boyfriend that still keeps little trinkets of his ex I think that is so rude because that's just what happend to ......... on ..........!'' You see what I mean so say something like that.Good Luck!

Answer 8

If he wanted it to be a secret he should have hid it better. Because now, you like to think that you have a honest relationship and now there is this secret! It would honestly kill me not to know about it! But you have to be tactful, when bringing this to his attention! Maybe he wont show you today, but maybe in the future, try to respect his wishes! Good Luck with that!

Answer 9

Everyone deserves to have some sort of secrecy, when alone or when in a relationship. This "secret box" sounds harmless, just leave him alone and don't antagonize him. Unless this "secret box" starts effecting your relationship or he becomes upsest about this box, i would suggest just turning the other cheek.

Answer 10

No don't be worryed I am shore there are just things in it from his past don't worry about it. I know I have a little box that I keep special things in it from the past. If it bothers you that much then just look in it when he is no around. But be prepair of what you may find and remember that you can not bring up any thing that you may find in the box up to him.

Answer 11

Do you trust him? Obviously not. Give the guy some space and privacy. It's probably something stupid like a porn magazine or DVD. Just leave him alone if that's the only thing wrong.