my fiancee and I are seriously drained we have been together for almost five years and recently he moved to another state and we have been doing long distance for 7months and it is draining us.My recent visit with him last week we agreed to go to city hall next month and have something next year. My sister who didnt have a wedding. What other option can I do after going to city hall the following year for family and friends. Is it wrong for us to make this decision? I know I want to have the thrill of the dress and walking down the aisle, it's just right now we need to be together.
2007-08-16 03:39:58 · 18 answers · asked by ucme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You don't need to be married to be together. You've already moved so you need to worry about getting settled in your new home. Be there for each other and let things calm down. That way in a year or so you'll be ready for an engagement and then get married the way you want to - with all of your family and friends. No need to rush anything.
2007-08-16 06:08:44 · answer #1 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a Justice of the Peace and ask how they do it in your state. Here in Iowa, they don't do it at City Hall or Court House anymore, You pay a Justice of the Peace to perform the Ceremony and you can either do it at The JOP's office or you can pay like $50 more to have them go somewhere else to do it.
The one that me and my husband went to did our ceremony for $100 ( it would have been $75 if we would have done it during the week ) and if we had somewhere we wanted him to come he would have charged us $150.
Even if you do it at City hall or JOP's Office, you can have a few family members and friends come with you there if you don't want them to feel like they missed it, We had 7 people at ours then we had a small reception after we got married, and that was good enough for me, I have never wanted a big wedding so we decided to do it that way. I don't think it is wrong of you at all, you are not obligated to have a big wedding, you have the kind of wedding you want to have and don't worry what anyone else thinks about it.
2007-08-16 03:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mom22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's OK. But I will disagree with all those saying you can re-do the wedding in a big fashion later. You can have a reception/party later. Or you can do a vow renewal later, probably on your anniversary. But the wedding at the courthouse is your wedding. So, if you can't live with that, better re-think your plan.
Perhaps you can budget carefully and have the dress and the walk down the aisle soon. Best wishes!
2007-08-16 05:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by Ara57 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to get married at City Hall, find someone to marry you in a park or something.
You don't have to spend alot of money, just wear a pretty dress and have a friend or someone as a witness.
You could pick some flowers or just buy a $5 bunch and tie it with a ribbon (or not).
That way, you feel like you had a real wedding (which you did), and it was cheap.
Good Luck!
2007-08-16 03:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by haleigh's mom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok...right now you need to be together, but 20 years down the road...are you going to be kicking yourself because you missed out on a wedding?? If you do get married at the city hall, which is see NO problem with whatsoever, you could renew your vows and have a nice wedding cermony...but would you actually ever get around to that?? Why can't you just move in together and get married after awhile down the road?? If you set a date and start planning before you move in together...you'll have the best of both worlds!! Good luck!
2007-08-16 03:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My husband and I did the long distance thing the whole time we dated-he lived in Germany, I was in Chicago. I planned a wedding with 14 family and friends in attendance, and to tell you the truth, the day we went to get the license, I almost suggested to him that we get married right then and there. Why waste the time-being together is so awesome. We did hold off, but I really was ready to marry that day!
Go to the court house-don´t waste any more time being apart. I think it´s mentally exhausting, and now live in Germany with my husband. I nearly went crazy when he had to go to Canada on business for 4 days, and was so happy when he came home!
2007-08-16 09:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many people get married to have a wedding instead of a marriage. I think it is a fine idea. You can either renew your vows next year with the dress and everything or just have a big party to celebrate your union on or around your first anniversary. Good luck!
2007-08-16 03:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by Buddy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely get married at City Hall and you could have a dinner party or cocktail party after to celebrate with family and friends then for your 1 year anniversary plan a formal wedding to renew your vows with a formal reception
2007-08-16 03:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with getting married at City Hall (or County Courthouse, or wherever!), and having another wedding, later, for the family and friends to attend.
I've married my husband five times. We have lots of anniversaries.
2007-08-16 03:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by §αғịỳỳẩ² Ẫ†нэậ†ị 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of people who do the small, elopment type wedding, then at a later time, have a big one. Almost like a renewal or something. There is nothing wrong with that. Do what you need to, honey!!! Good luck!!!!
2007-08-16 04:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by nikki1162000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋