my mom is bugging me so much about my married life, my in laws, my career, my health, my friends... just about everything. nothing seems to work for her.
now that i am pregnant, she is forever asking me about the baby and why i am not going to the hospital for the smallest stomach upset or headache.
if i go to meet friends, she tells me to avoid exerting myself. and if i dont meet anyone for a couple of days, she says i need to go out and meet other people.
before i married, she used to be very restrictive, and i never got to spend time with my friends, or do anything fun. all she wanted was for me to get married soon. now that i have, she must be happy, but she has complaints about me marrying far away...
i can understand that she misses me. and i miss her too. i keep assuring her that things are fine with me. but still she seems to think that i ll be better off and living next door to her.
is everybody's moms this way ?
2007-08-16 03:18:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she is a very loving person, and she worries just about everyone she knows... i can understand her concern that she is not able to help me or take care of me especially now that i am pregnant, but everytime i talk to her, she brings up so many problems that i get really frustrated, and not feeling good about my own life....
but i do love her a LOT... and it leaves me feeling SO guilty that i live so far away and making her worry about me so much... :(
2007-08-16 03:39:14 · update #1
No. You're going to have to tell her that you're a grown up now and she can't tell you what to do anymore. She can offer advice, but that's it.
2007-08-16 03:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by comeundone4162 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My God, I thought I was the only one. Recently, I lost my baby, it was very hard and I had to have a D&C. Well, I made the very big mistake of telling my mother, ( I was just 10 wks, so I wasn't telling many people). She is so worried about me now, she is now asking me how I'm feeling and how much she misses me now that I'm not living at home. She even was worried that the doctor made a mistake and was only trying to abort my baby!!!!! I finally told her, enough is enough. I love you and will always be your daughter, but it is time to let me live my life. Least to say, she was miffed for awhile, but she got over it. She hasn't stopped with her million questions, but once I tell her enough, she does. She misses you and if your mom is anything like my mom, you are probably her life and she can't let go that you are not five anymore. Just be patient and have a nice long talk with her. Because once the baby comes, she'll only get worse if you dont' nip it in the bud! NOW.
2007-08-16 10:50:12 · answer #2 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about everybody's mom being exactly that way, but I can say that my Mom is a lot like her and in some cases worse. I just moved 2 states away from her. You have to remind yourself you'rre not living life for her. You have responsibilities now and you need to be more focused on those, no don't ignore your Mom, but when you have contact with her next, make sure she knows how you feel and how important taking care of your responsibilites ard to you. Doing her way won't work for you because your not her. You're smart enough and responsible enough to know what is needed in your life, if she don't agree that's okay, but she can't do anything about it. After explaining all that to her NICELY, if she still continues, just continue to show respect to her, but don't give in to her and get angry or go againdst what you think you should do. Turning to God asking Him to help is a wonderful starting place, too.
2007-08-16 10:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. my mom and I get along better at a distance. she's in Ohio and im in Wisconsin.
Let your mom know you value her insight and love the help she offers but that you are an adult and your starting a family. Convey to her that she will always be your mom but right now you need her to prepare to be a grandmom. spoiling and dolting on your infant. Assure her you are listening to your doctor and that you will be sure to ask the doctor if you encounter any issues.
Ask her to let you make a couple mistakes on your own cause if you don't then your gonna end up refusing to take her calls.. just to get a break!
2007-08-16 10:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by jeselynn_81 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you the only child? my mom is like that but not that bad. i have been sock most of my life so she always tries to tell me how to do things when it comes to my health. i know she loves me and she has my best interest at heart but after i got married had to sit her down and tell her that i am a grown woman and i can make my choices. she respected my wishes. well i am 37 now and i just moved close to my mom again, she works 2 minutes from where i live. she comes over everyday for lunch, but she waits for me to ask her before she starts trying to change anything. good luck to you. you need to talk to her before you have the baby , may god bless you and your baby!
2007-08-16 10:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some mothers are and some are not . Mothers are this way because they love you and want the best for you but do not seems to always do it in the right way.
2007-08-16 10:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mother doesn't have a life. Just let her talk like you are listening to rain. Don't get upset or talk back. I know is hard, but it can be done. Good luck.
2007-08-16 10:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by elgil 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋