i just wanted to know what i can do about my 6 year old trying to steal and lie about it?

Question

i called my local police department and they were supposed to come out and talk to him but they never showed up. what else can i do?

Answer 1

The first (and last) time my daughter stole something, I took her right back to the store, made her hand it over to the manager, and apologize for taking what didn't belong to her. It embarrassed the H*ll out of her, she cried the whole way to the store, the whole way through the manager's tongue-lashing, and the whole way home, but she never did it again. That was 10 years ago, though. I'm afraid if I did that today, the manager would call the police and have the baby arrested for shoplifting even after the item was returned to "teach her a lesson." I mean, if a child can be charged with sexual harassment for hugging his pre-k teacher, anything is possible these days.

So what would I do now if I were in your situation? I'd watch that boy like a HAWK, and if I caught him trying to steal something or in actual possession of a stolen item, I would mail the item back to the store with a note explaining the situation and no return address, or money to cover the expense if it was an edible item that was already consumed, then I'd start taking the child's beloved possessions away, one item at a time, explaining with each one that he took something that didn't belong to him, so he must forfeit something he treasures. No tv, no computer, no playing outside for the rest of the day and the entire next day. And HE must figure out a way to work off the debt he incurred to earn his beloved possessions back.

Answer 2

if u yell at him u will teach him to yell when there is a problem that needs improving. If u spank him u will teach him that it is OK to use violence . if it was my own kid i would set up chores 4 him to do around the house and show him that when u want some thing and are willing to work 4 it and save 4 it every 1 wins. let him know he is not a bad kid but confused. and if he does take something that is not his he should return it ad say I'm sorry he is only 6 he is not a bad kid and u need to make that clear to him spanking and yelling or taking some thing that's his is not the way to go about this

Answer 3

I had this happen once with my late son.

I took him to the store and made him return a toy and apologize to the attendant.

One other time he and friends were playing with gasoline and matches in the street.

I carried them to the fire station and let a fireman talk to them.

He scared the bejeebers out of them.

Hope this may give you some ideas.

Take him TO the police station. Let him think he's going to jail.

Answer 4

Wow, your child is starting early. I would go to the school, ask them for help. Our school has it's own police officer (we live in a very small school system).

I wish you the best of luck, I am still dealing with a child like yours. She is now 16 and has been in a youth detention center, things are better now, with the help of medications, but it is still a constant worry of mine.

Answer 5

Try doing the same to her, take something she likes of discreetly (like a toy or something) and if she tells you to give it back say you dont have it, this way the child knows its wrong to steal and lie about it.

Children learn best by experiencing

Answer 6

Perhaps you should try to understand or find out the reason why your kid wants to steal and lie. Is it due to you not spending enough time with your child?

Also, could talk to your child about the difficult to earn monies and if he/she needs monies.. could always talk to you instead of stealing it - cos it is a crime...

Use TV programmes etc to educate your child to see the senario

Answer 7

You answered your own question without even realizing it. Your son is begging for your attention and you shirk your parental responsibilities off on the police? They are busy enough without trying to raise your son for you. Be an adult...be the parent.

Answer 8

You need to take him to a child psychologist as soon as possible. There is always a reason for this kind of behavior, and it's usually treatable if caught early.

Answer 9

Talk to him. Take away privileges. If you know he's doing it, yell at him.

Punish him. my younger sister stole something, and my dad used the belt on her. She never did it again, and she is not mentally damaged, either.

A good dose of punishment is what he needs to set him straight. let him know that you know, and if he tries it again, he'll get punished. And follow through of he does. Don't back off and go soft. You need to be the person in charge, not your son.

Answer 10

Why call the police?? He is begging for attention and you called the police. Give him the attention he deserves.