ok here is the short story...my bf went out with his usual guy friends for there usual monday night outing. the guys he hangs out with are good guys and they usually hang out at the local dive after work till about 11 at night. i spoke to my bf at about 10:30 and he said he was heading home soon. i woke up at 3 am and he wasn't home i called his cell no answer. i was awake all night worried about him.. i got up as usual to go to work and when i left at 8 he still wasn't home ! i came home for lunch he was there sleeping. and he missed a day of work and we are on a tight budget and can't afford that. so i have not spoke to him since monday night and he thinks i am over reacting i think he was very imature not to call to tell me he was ok. and we live togather .. would you be upset or am i over reacting? oh ya he has done this in the past and i have told him how upset it makes me.
2007-08-16 02:40:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'd be pisssed
2007-08-16 02:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by bandgeek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common courtesy and a show of respect to call you at the very least and let you know that he is okay-especially if he was out drinking. Who knows if he was in an accident on the way home or something. He disrespected you and your relationship by not calling and especially not coming home. Personally if my boyfriend would have called and said, "Honey, I am too drunk to drive, I am going to crash at so and so's house. I will be home first thing in the morning"-there would have been no problem. Calmly sit down and explain to him how you feel he disrespected your feelings and tell him that in the future-you would appreciate a call from him so you will know he is alright. Explain that you were WORRIED about him and are not trying to nag him-but you legitimately care for and love him, and that you expected him home since you had previously talked to him at 10:30 and he said he would be home shortly. You were thinking the worst by the time 8am rolled around and there was still no sign of him. Tell him to reverse the situation and put himself in your shoes. He would be all ticked off and yelling and screaming at you.
2007-08-16 09:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very upset. It is disrespectful for him to have not even called. Perhaps he had too much to drink and passed out at one his friends houses. Don't jump to conclusions that he was cheating. It is certainly possible but just as possible that he wasn't.
Bottom line...he should have called. It is not right to leave you worrying all night. Not only did he miss work, but he put you in position where you are tired and distracted. This will not help you at work either.
You need to have a serious conversation about this and make sure he understands that it is unacceptable behaviour. You live together and that arrangement certainly obligates him to better communication. Even a text meassage would have eliminated this unfortunate situation.
If he shows you this kind of negligence in other areas of your life, you have bigger problems than a missed phone call.
Good luck.
2007-08-16 09:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by Bogey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I don't blame you for being upset. He should have been more considerate of your feelings and call and let you know he was okay... When my boyfriend goes out hunting or something he calls me or has someone else call me if they leave before him! And I think it is wrong that he missed a day of work... He is very immature... I don't know what to tell you to do about it, but I agree you should be upset!
2007-08-16 09:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by silverchick_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be uspset...what was he doing out that late? If he has done this to you in the past and doesnt' listen to you and respect your feelings he obvisouly doesn't have much respect for you. He needs to get his priorities in order or yuo should leave him. You don't need a man pulling you down in life. There are a lot more fish in the sea that woudlnt' pull those stupid stunts on you. You deserve better!
2007-08-16 09:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's very strange that he didnt come home when he said and i totally understand why you would be upset, but just for a second contemplate why it made you angry. next, come up with ways you may have been overreacting. then, talk it over with him. if this doesnt work then the best thing you can do is just wait it out.
2007-08-16 09:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by Britt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boy should have come home, or at the very least, have called you. He wasn't back home at 8 am?? What the hell was he doing all that time? Ain't no bars open that late.....
2007-08-16 09:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by barefoot_yank 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be very upset if my boyfriend ever did that he really dont understand, maybe if you had a night out with the girls and didnt call of ddint come home till late after noon how would he feel..
2007-08-16 10:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by cutiebabexx420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd be mad. definitely. because what was so mind boggling that he couldnt call you and let you know he wouldnt be home, after he told you he'd be home "soon" at around 10:30pm? to wake up at 3am and see ya man still aint home, that would hurt me to my gut. right away i'd think he's with another girl. to wake up at 8am and he's STILL not home, well that's just deadly for the mind and emotions. to come home at lunchtime and see he's home "sleeping", oh hell no. i'd definitely be angry. you're not overreacting. he's trying to flip it on you so he doesnt have to look at himself and how messed up it is what he did.
what reason did he give you?
2007-08-16 09:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up!!! He's done this before!!! Just where was he?
You deserve better, trust me hon, he's not up to any good staying out all night. Not to mention, he's spending all his time at a bar!! He's no good, kick him to the door!!!
2007-08-16 09:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea of course this will upset you but i think now you are over reacting ... You must talk to him about this and explain to him and then everything will be solved...
2007-08-16 09:46:12 · answer #11 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋