If you look at somebody with lust you are supposed to already have commited adultery in your heart but isn't it just human nature to be attracted to the opposite sex? What are you supposed to do pray for forgiveness every time you find somebody appealing? So then have I in fact broke the commandment? Any insight would be helpfull.
2007-08-16 02:36:08 · 19 answers · asked by Jennifer K 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Thoughts are thoughts. It is actions that count. You will find people attractive, but if you don't act upon it, you haven't broken any commandment. It says "commit" not think about.
2007-08-16 02:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by merrybodner 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
It may be human nature and stimulating, but where does it go because it is also human nature that if a thing looks good, it needs pushing along. In other words the lust will not be satisfied with what it takes in the first time, but it will grow and cause the lusting one to take further action at some time or the luster may settle on something more sure and easier to have but just as wrong and unfulfilling.
The scripture you paraphrased was given by Jesus in his love for us that we might not hurt ourselves or others. Did you consider all the ways people can get hurt from lust that is carried out: reduced self respect, willful sinning against God, ruining of family(s), disease that could even lead to death, unhappiness caused to others and provoking jealousy? It really does sometimes take extreme effort to turn our back on temptations, but one thing we can do help ourselves is think hard about what we might be getting ourselves into.
Finally, there is this:
We are admonished by the writer of the book of Galatians to reach out and pray for God's holy spirit that can give us the fruits of the spirit which are: "love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faith, mildness, self-control. Against these things there is no law". Also of interest is James 1:14-15 because it describes the behavior and result of desire.
2007-08-16 03:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by quaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JENNIFER FIRSTof all you can only be an adulteress if you are married , if you are not married , then you are not committing adultery . if you are of age then go out and in joy life , as long as noone is going to get hurt , i agree with you , human nature , is a powerful tool , and yes you are right , if something clicks between you and the other person , then the controll is difficult to curtail , If you go back to the ten commandments , it says thou shall not committe adultry , , this means , that you do not go out with some that is married , because it would lead you as the temptest in playing the part in this . i am not here to tell you what you can or cannot do , lets face it , it is your body , but their are warnings in all this to , you would be aware of A.I.D.S then Syithliss and the highly gontastious Gonerearor, I think you would have to look at these dangers , plus , look at weather you are doing it for sex or love , ? to me anyone can WALK OUT THEY DOOR AND PICK up sex ask yourself would you find that appealing , ? i think not , but Love is different , you are giveing both of yourselves to each other , because this is how close you want to be ,
2007-08-16 02:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by Tranquilty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matthew 5:28
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
lust
1. intense sexual desire or appetite.
2. uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness.
attractive
1. providing pleasure or delight, esp. in appearance or manner; pleasing; charming; alluring: an attractive personality.
There is a difference in being attracted and lusting. But attraction can turn to lust. If you find someone attractive don't dwell on it.
2 Corinthians 10:5
Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
2007-08-16 03:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by Old Hickory 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is a difference between appreciating the beauty of a person and lusting after them. One can admire a beautiful person without sinning. However, when the desire (unnatural desire according to the religious group) turns to sexual fantasy, then it becomes sin.
However, I am right there with you. When I see a beautiful woman, the first words that pop out of my mouth are, "Man! I would hit that!" LOL!
2007-08-16 02:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by tempest_twilight2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the above are good answers. I would ask you to define to yourself 'lust'. If you find someone attractive, is that lust? If you have disturbing [to you] thoughts about this person, that might be lust. You haven't acted on these thoughts, and it sounds as if you aren't planning on acting on them, so if your heart, or conscience are clean, do not worry.
2007-08-16 02:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by kathbiralibaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between attraction and lust. Attraction draws your attention, and lust tries to satisfy it.
We've all broken that commandment! At least if we're honest with ourselves. Don't feel like you have to confess it to God every time. If He convicts you every time (which I kind of doubt), then do so, but otherwise, relax!
God has created us as sexual beings and understands (but doesn't excuse) this problem. He's created those feelings in us to save for and please our spouse.
2007-08-16 02:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by jimmiedean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont agree at all that simply looking at someone with lust is committing adultery! We are all bound to be attracted to others now & then. As long as you just leave it at that, you havent done anything wrong. Dont try & make yourself feel guilty for having perfectly natural feelings for an attractive person. You're human. Its ok. These are only feelings, you havent commited adultery!
2007-08-16 02:43:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
LOL... Everyone, reguardless of relationship status, is attracted to others. As long as you don't cheat on your lover physically with another person, then you are not an adultress. I'm sure your loved one has also found others attractive. It is human nature to be attracted in lust.
2007-08-16 02:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by i_have_to_know_why 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can think them of attractive, but not "lust" after them, which means to want to have sex. And if you do lust after them,you should repent and confess your sins (if you're catholic). Remember that all sins may be forgiven through the precious Blood of Christ.
2007-08-16 02:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Martin Luther put it very well (paraphrase): "It's not your fault if a bird lands on your head. It is if you let him make a nest there". There's no sin in momentary gut feeling-- it's only if you dwell on those feelings.
2007-08-16 02:45:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋