My sister-in-law wants to stay with me and my husband for a few days with her two kids (6 months and almost 2) about 10 days after our first baby is due. The real reason is she needs to work using our Internet connection. I don't want to be rude, but this is our first baby, things are going to be chaotic as it is, and if she has to work it will be hard for her to keep an eye on the little ones. Plus I don't want her hawking over me, telling me the "right" way to do everything when we'll still be trying to figure out how WE want to do things. What do I do?
2007-08-16 02:27:44 · 8 answers · asked by ♫ Sweet Honesty ♫ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would respectfully tell your family that you want to wait a bit before having overnight guests.It should be obvious to your family that with a new baby you must try to adapt to the new baby yourself.You will have to establish new "routines" and learn about priorities.You are correct in not wanting anyone "hawking" over you.People mean well when they do this but they forget they didn't welcome it themselves. Just for the record,babies don't always arrive on their due date. I JUST RE-READ YOUR QUESTION.Many a baby has been born on the date the baby chose not the calendar. You will not need the extra concern of house guests at this time. Your sister-in -law should know better.Good luck.
2007-08-16 02:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your house with your *new baby and she should understand that being a mother herself that the "healing" and bonding process takes time.. You need time to bond peacefully with the new baby and heal yourself.. Now's not the time for family overnight visits.. Maybe she can get a hotel with internet acess and do her work from a different location... She should know that you need some rest and peace... Good luck
2007-08-16 02:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to meet problem head on. The answer is n o she shouldn't be staying with you and u have to tell her so. She is being a bit selfish. There are lots of places including libraries where she can go and use computer all day if needed.
2007-08-16 03:26:54 · answer #3 · answered by Bill R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u stand up to her and tell her that you and ur husband feels that the 1st month should be just baby , u , daddy. that newborns are easily able to get sick by germs and as a new mom u want to bond with ur baby without having to worry about the baby getting sick. that after awahile u will feel more relax and wouldnt mind if she comes then but not til then.
2007-08-16 02:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shud tell her things will be difficult with ur new born baby. u can tell her in a nice manner, she can go somewhere else u see. probably it will better if ur husband communicate abt it to her. It will be really difficult with 6 months and 2 years old kid around , trust me! say it asap!!
2007-08-16 02:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by i gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your house your child
start taking the responsibility for the baby now
tell her no its time for you get bond with baby and get used to taking care of baby.you don't need all the fuss of everyone running all over your house so soon after the babies born.
Her problems need to be solved by herself. take care of your own family first.
good luck with the new one- be happy
2007-08-16 02:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by zachsgrammy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, telll you husband, than talk it out with her and ask her to go somewhere else to look for a job. Tell her how you feel and that maybe she can come back later
2007-08-16 02:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her isn't not a convenient time.
the fact is, she's being rude and self-serving if she'd just up and intrude on your life right after you have a baby..
it would be different if she were coming ALONE, but toting a family along? i don't think any of it is fair to YOU, and it's THOUGHTLESS OF HER!!
let her get her own internet connection.
2007-08-16 03:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋