...and we set up a movie date that same night for Friday at a theater. On Wednesday, he texted me to see if I was busy and to see if I wanted to come over and watch a movie at his house. I told him i was and he said “see u on Friday then”. Since I’ve had pretty bad experiences with guys who wanted to just score, I got suspicious. He seems like a pretty nice guy but i have my guard up big time. Am I wrong to be suspicious in this situation?
2007-08-16 02:14:36 · 30 answers · asked by Indgrid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would go the movie Friday night,but not to his house. If the date goes well,then go out on other dates at public places. I would not go to his house until you know and trust him and even then I would bring a friend along.You are a smart girl,stay that way!
2007-08-16 02:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by ana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! Good for you for being suspicious. There are a lot of guys out there who are, in fact, only interested in the physical aspect of dating. It behooves us, as women, to look out for ourselves and each other. Don't get me wrong, there are lots of decent guys out there, but you've got to get to know a guy before you consider giving away such a special part of yourself. I think it was smart to say no to a first date at his house watching a movie. After all, you don' really know anything about him yet! Meeting for the first time in a public place is a much better way to go! I hope you end up having a great time on your date with him :-)
2007-08-23 20:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by not going over to his house on Wednesday. You just met him, so going over to his house is definitely a no-no.
Always keep your guard up when dealing with guys you don't know well.
However, don't compare what one guy did in the past to the current guy. They're both different, and you'll never find happiness in a relationship if you always live in the past.
2007-08-23 14:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't. You are learning from past relationships that you have had and that keeps you from getting hurt all the time over the same thing I would say keep your guard up a lot now and as you get more and more comfortable with him then let it down little by little. I am engaged and I don't have a guard up but I always think with my head. My heart I think with sometimes.
2007-08-24 01:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by beautifull103087 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never let your guard down until you know it is safe. In some csituations I still have my Guard up with my BF and we live together. But don't push him away if you really like him and give him a chance if you think he deserves one. Just go to the movies have a good time see where you end up after the date. Go slow
2007-08-16 02:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're exactly wrong to worry. I think pretty much all girls have that thought in the back of their heads when they first meet a guy. There's only one way to find out if this guy is a jerk or not & that's just to go out with him & see how he acts. Also, if he tries to sleep with you I wouldn't be offended right away. I think it's more telling when you see how he reacts when you make it clear that you're just not that easy. If he still wants to get to know you and hang out then maybe he's not such a creep after all.
2007-08-24 02:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have had the same experencies. i think you should keep your guard up. dont let it down. One thing dont always be fresked when u go there. When u walk in the door act normal. if he starts making moves all the time and u get suspicious just leave pretend ur tired. Oh just the arm around the shoulder is ok u should know that!!!!!
2007-08-24 01:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by Shelby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do be careful. even a honestly keen guy or woman will often not be this pushy with the texts and eager to work out you so often. A truthful guy or woman could play their taking part in cards on the brink of their chest for a rapid on an identical time as and permit issues build progressively. tell him it is too lots too quickly and notice if he slows down somewhat. there is likewise the possibility that this guy only needs intercourse so he's attempting to velocity issues alongside. it is occurred to me like this in the previous. take it sluggish once you're transforming into back into the dating scene, you do not want the tension.
2016-12-30 15:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You don't know him, and he invited you over his house to "watch a movie". Sounds like a common sketchy situation to me. Have your guard up and don't let him take advantage of you... But also don't let your guard stop you from having a good time and possibly meeting the greatest guy in the world.
2007-08-16 02:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your not wrong to be suspicious but maybe the guy wants to see you again and just couldn't wait until friday so he wanted to see you sooner. also he might have wanted to see a movie that isn't in theaters anymore and he had it on DVD
2007-08-16 02:20:29 · answer #10 · answered by sftballchic062001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋