A few months back I took in a 22 year old guy that was homeless. I felt sorry for him and he appeared to be a nice kid. Well recently he has been totally disrespecting me by doing things that I could get into trouble for. I have told him constantly told him to not have more that two of his friends here at a time. I come home from seeing my own children and find my house filled with young adults smoking pot. I have asked this kid and asked him not to let people in my house and not to be smoking pot with them in my house. Well he decided that the back yard would be a better place to do it. I look in my backyard a few days ago and I have a backyard full of kids around the table. Well last night took the cake. I came home from taking my grandson to the doctor because he is sick. I walk in my door and my house is FULL of kids 22 and under. I looked at the mess turned around and walked out t sit on the porch to cool off. Well finally they all left.
2007-08-16 02:09:50 · 10 answers · asked by Char A 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
OK. U are being taken for a ride. Yes u did the right thing by offering him shelter, but he is taking advantage big time. He has to leave. Now. Do u have any male friends/family who could back u up ( I know this sounds sexist, but...) Twell him to leave. Tell him he is now trespassing. If necessary, tell the police. See an attorney as to ur legal position, but he obviously has to go. I know it's easy for me to say this, on the other side of the Pond as I am, but I hope it helps. Oh yes.If they have all gone, including him, have the locks changed
2007-08-16 02:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by SKCave 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you already know what the answer to this is. You've laid down rules and they've been ignored. He wasn't ready to take advantage (in the positive way that you offered it) this opportunity. This person isn't looking for a chance to start over, he views your house as a place to have a bunch of people over to get high. If he's not dealing out of your house, somebody will be soon and you could lose everything. I know that its a disappointment, but its time to cut him loose and change the locks. If you have trouble getting rid of him or his friends or anybody threatens you, do call the police. While they say that no good deed goes unpunished, you have the right to protect yourself from legal problems or physical danger and you should do that. Good Luck!
2007-08-16 09:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by pag2809 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound sto me like you are super nice and being taken advantage of. Give him an ultimatum! You were kind enough to take him off the streets. The least, leats! thing he could do is respect your wishes. If he does not follow your simple requests, the he has to leave. Is he atleast working or going to school>? If not, then that should be a requirement of staying in your home. It's great to be kind hearted but you have a right to have your home environment how YOU want it!!
2007-08-16 14:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by riss criss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to boot this guy out I don't understand why you haven't done so..it is not your obligation to supply a place for him and his buddies to smoke pot and besides he has no blood relation to you. It was nice of you to try and help but for him to do what he did is just crossing the line. If he can't respect you or your house rules then he can just leave no point getting in trouble because of him it is not worth it. besides smoking pot is not a good environment for your grandson. You don't want to bring him around this guy so now you have to choose who is more important...its obvious who is...tell him to stop or get out plain and simple and if he refuse to leave or stop call the cops on him.. He is not your responsibility.
2007-08-16 09:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by skhem82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kick him out if he cannot follow your rules. if he refuses to leave call the police and have him escorted off your property and have the cops tell him if he comes back he will be arrested. have this be a learning experience and don't take in anymore homeless people. i know that sounds harsh but there is shelters for them to go to. best of luck.
2007-08-16 09:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by amanda t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So I am not sure what the question is.....however, I would THROW HIM OUT!!!!! You can lose your home for drugs and I am sure that he is not worth that. Also, he obviously has no respect for you or your requests. There was a reason he was homeless to begin with.......someone else threw him out......I would do the same TODAY!!!!
2007-08-16 09:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by chi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the nice kid seems to have been an act to get a handout put your foot down he is an adult and should makr his own way
2007-08-16 09:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by MaryandZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he really did not appreciate your generous act so i would just give him a list of shelters and kick him out
2007-08-16 09:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by teddyboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask this person to leave. If he refuses, call the police.
http://www.onlinelifecoach.org
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2007-08-16 09:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by onlinelifecoach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get a friggin backbone! and why the hell did you open your door to a homeless guy when you have children at your house?... jesus christ lady!
2007-08-16 09:21:19 · answer #10 · answered by des0ne 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋