Last night, I was talking with a friend of mine who is a Christian, and knows that I'm an atheist. A few days ago, we decided to exchange some ideas in the forms of a book and a CD; I gave him my copy of 'Letter To A Christian Nation', and he gave me a CD of a sermon recently recorded at his church.
The following is a summary of our dialogue as I was leaving last night :
Him : "Let me know what you think, and if you're ever interested in attending church with me, tell me."
Me : "I'll let you know. Church isn't really my thing."
Him : "Lots of women there...!"
Me : "Dude, I'm an atheist, and even I know that's not the reason to attend church."
Did I misconstrue or read too much into his comment, or is sex a new angle for recruiting people to attend church? Opinions from all are welcome.
2007-08-16 02:02:43 · 15 answers · asked by Deke 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
LOL He just probably knows you VERY well!
2007-08-16 02:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by mrs O 6 · 7⤊ 2⤋
LOL, Deke, I can understand why you are confused. Your friend gave you a mixed message, didn't he? Since I don't know him, I can only guess what he meant:
1) Since you're single, he wants to introduce you to a nice Christian girl, who he believes would be a good influence;
2) He is "carnal" and perhaps thinks of church as a place to meet single women (or, if he's married, he wishes he could and wants to live vicariously though you);
3) He understands that the Bible teaches that a Christian woman, through patience and understanding (but not preaching) will demonstrate the love of Christ to her non-Christian boyfriend or husband. When an unbeliever sees how a true Christian acts, and hears what a true Christian believes, this can be a positive influence. Many men have come to believe in Christ as a result of a believing wife or girlfriend. Just ask Lee Strobel -- a former atheist married to a Born Again Christian.
2007-08-16 02:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Suzanne: YPA 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
ROFLMAO - it's true, it can be pushed as a place to meet others. Where I got to church 99.9% of the people in attendance are married couples - many are always saying "Girl, we just love you and love having you here, but you'll never meet someone here!" Like they can't believe I don't go to church with a bunch of single men. HELLO. Not why I'm at church in the first place. So, if you ever want to attend church to truly attend church, just let me know - there aren't any single women there. LOL
2007-08-16 02:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by Marvelissa VT 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Where I'm from, many many Black girls love Jesus. And all their moms love Church boys. I can't even tell you how many times I've been asked by older women "Which church do you attend?" because they want to know if I'd be good for their daughters. Sometimes, I haven't even met the daughters yet!
Plus, in certain types of Christianity, and in Black families, there is heavy pressure to marry young. Some of my female friends at the age of 20 (while in college) were getting "you need to find a husband to take care of you" speech. "You need to find you a church boy".
So, I wonder how much of it is sex, and how much of it is marriage?
2007-08-16 03:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
My whole life church has been pushed on me as a "pick up scene." As a teenager I'd be sitting in a pew listening to the sermon and my mom would elbow me and point at at cute young guy a couple rows down. All the old women would always try and set us young girls up with their grandsons. The small group system in the church I attend now is horrible, I avoid Bible studies and Sunday School at all costs because the one I fit into (as a 24 year old unmarried woman) is called "Singles Impact" and it's pretty much a Christianized version of the bar scene without booze. No thank you.
2007-08-16 02:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
why positioned plenty emphasis on virginity? Having intercourse with somebody is specific, no count while you're a virgin or no longer. i do no longer think of that persons could enter into married with none know-how or adventure with relationships. this would not unavoidably mean having intercourse in the past marriage, yet i think of it helps. Having a undesirable intercourse life in a relationship will ultimately smash it, it relatively is maximum suitable to be responsive to and understand what intercourse is all approximately in the past you commit. And in case you will marry somebody, then why don't you notice the way you like them in mattress. Like try employing the motor vehicle you desire to purchase, you on no account be responsive to the way it drives until you get in. you do no longer desire to be caught with somebody who perhaps does something in mattress that repulses you or has some form of incredible fetish.
2016-10-10 08:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by boice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure women go to church these days dressed like they are in a party.... the more skin they can show the better.... IS THAT WHAT HAS BECOME OF THE CHRISTIAN CHURCH... has shyness and self consciousness been lost???
2007-08-16 02:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
That really is the wrong reason to go to church. I would guess that he was trying desperately to get you to go.....
I understand why he said that but.......
It's not the right motive. And if you were to go for that reason alone, it wouldn't be the right motive for you as well.
2007-08-16 02:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by primoa1970 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Many people think of Church as a big social club.
2007-08-16 02:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
What the..!!
Where's this friend of yours!? I'll clean his clock!
I don't know about everyon else but nobody in my Christian community would say something like that! That's stupid! If not, a real turn off.
2007-08-16 02:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by Otaku in Need 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Pretty bad angle since doesn't Christianity mandate that you get married before sex.
Thats just a really bad selling point.
2007-08-16 02:10:13 · answer #11 · answered by John C 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋