Is there anyone here, who would be fine if their fiance did not want a wedding band for personal reasons that have nothing to do with money ( honestly )?
2007-08-16 00:33:16 · 13 answers · asked by Eulaelie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i would not be to happy about that i mean that is part of what ties the knot! so my fiance will be getting his wedding band!
2007-08-16 00:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly? No, I wouldn't be fine.
It's funny - I KNOW you're still married without the ring, and I KNOW that the ring is only a symbol of the marriage. I mean, we ALL know that!
But I really feel like even though it's a symbol of commitment, it's a way of carrying that symbol of your vows with you everywhere you go - even when he's not with you. (Gawd, am I a sap or what?) I honestly am not one of those women who views a wedding ring as a shiny "No Tresspassing" sign.
My own hubby had reservations about wearing a ring - he didn't even wear a watch before we got married! He tried on countless bands until he found one that was comfortable with - for him a narrower, comfort-fit band was the key (with no diamonds - he was adamant!). He fidgeted with the thing constantly for the first month we were married, but now he feels weird when he DOESN'T wear it.
Talk to him about what the issue really is - is he allergic to metal? Does he not like some of the styles he's seen? Encourage him to look at all the bands and try on different styles/metals, etc.
At the end of the day, though, if you two are okay with it, then it doesn't matter. My mom & dad didn't wear their rings - and they were married 28 years until my dad passed. My aunt & uncle have been married 30+ years and don't wear their rings, either....whatever works best for you!
2007-08-16 02:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you understand and agree with the reasonong behind your fiance not wanting to wear a wedding band, then you don't need the approval or advice of anyone.
The wedding band is symbolic and means completeness, continuous love (no beginning or end), and commitment.
What other way do you tell the world, without speaking a word that you are married to someone???
2007-08-16 01:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by shay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm recently married and had the same conversation with my new hubby before the wedding. He didn't want a wedding band and I was furious but instead of letting him know how mad I was, I told him that if that was the case, then I won't wear one either. Needless to say, we both have our wedding bands on at all times.
2007-08-16 02:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by Amethyst92476 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Same Situation. My husband has never worn a watch or even long sleeve shirts that are tight around the wrist. It drives him crazy. He has never worn any type of jewelry and didn't care to wear a wedding band. He is an electrical engineer so a lot of times he is working with high voltage. All the men hang the rings up on a Key ring they have in the shop, and its a frequent discussion on "is this my ring?"
My husband also travels a lot for work and at that time was going to Vegas monthly. I could understand not wearing it working with high voltage (there isn't a woman out there at all), but I said it was a MUST when he traveled away from me.
I wouldn't budge on that issue. I remember being single, out at bars, and checking a man's hands for the ring before I hit on him. Every time I went out for girl's night, I had on my engagement ring (in fact I had a fake $5 engagement ring that I wore out prior to actually being engaged).
We got a real ring for the wedding ceremony. Narrow, comfort fit like the prior post said. But my husband ordered several $5 wedding bands from this site
http://www.limogesjewelry.com/personalized-jewelry/limoges-jewelry.asp?catid=304
That is what he actually wears most days. None of the guys mistake it for their's and its so thin it will snap in 2. We throw it away every couple of months when it turns green. I told him he doesn't have to wear the ring at work, but he is so used to it, he wears it most days. All the guys think its amazing that he bought a $5 wedding band and that I don't care that he isn't wearing the "real" one.
For me it all depends on the situation--I am just not comfortable with my husband out without me, in other states, out in bars, without wearing a ring. I think it seems as if you are saying you are available, "what happens in vegas stays in vegas" mentality. If he works in an office, there is no reason why he can't wear it--but if he works with machinery I can see why he wouldn't want to mess it up. But a night out with the boys--if he doesn't want a ring I'd get it tattooed on him.
2007-08-16 03:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must have a reason for not wanting one. Try to come to a compromise and see if you can buy on for the ceremony to do the ring exchange and seal the marriage but eh doesn't have to wear it. Sit down and talk to him, find out what these personal reasons are and let him know how you feel...if you are getting married, you need to learn the art of communication and compromise now because that is the key to the rest of your lives together
2007-08-16 01:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't he want one? That is a little fishy if you ask me! It is a symbol of the two of you being together. I would question him as to why he doesn't want one and if you agree than it is ok, but if he just doesn't want one I would be a little concerned. I am always looking for a wedding ring to tell if people are single or not, and if he doesn't want to wear one he must want to be single forever!
2007-08-16 03:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Kristen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My other half was not all that bothered about having one because of his work, it could be dangerous for him to wear one while he is working, so that's a pretty good reason. He then inherited his father's wedding ring and as it is so sentimental he will wear it when he is not working. I was perfectly fine with him not wearing a ring, he needs his fingers!!
2007-08-16 01:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely NOT be fine, I personally feel that a wedding band symbolizes his loves and devotion to me, it is also a sign to the world that he is now OFF the market..... You should ask him why he does not want the world to know that he is a married man!!!!!
2007-08-16 00:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think if the reason is good enough and you are OK with it but i think for the ceremony it is vital but what about if he wears it on a chain around his neck ya know to show he is really committed to you
2007-08-16 02:07:59 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋