a question about my girlfriend?

Question

She is fillipina and the youngest of her family. We moved from california to Austin Texas. When she was living at home she had a cellphone then along the way she had to add her sister and her brother on the family plan.. She is still doing this and from day one had to pay the bill and is still stuck with the bill every month. She is seriously afraid to say anything to her family about wanting to drop the plan. I told her to be upfront and tell them you don't want to do it anymore. She is worried that they will say something like it isn't our fault you wanted to move away and buy a new car. My thing is why can't you just not worry about it and say "Well I moved on and started a new life over here and I can't afford to keep paying this bill" I mean this bill is over $100 every month and she had to pay it for several years now with no help from them. I even suggested well why don't you let your phone get cut off and have a "problem" so they will realize when they don't have a phone...

I guess my question is what would you guys do in this situation? Remember that her parents are old school fillipino. My girlfriend is a first generation american. They get butt hurt at the slightest thing. I mean literally butthurt.

They have a landline and her parents have their own cell phone but there is all this drama if I ask why can't the brother and sister get on their parents plan? Like her sister is afraid that her mom won't pay the bill or ask her to pay the bill which I say WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS!!! but anyways it comes down to her sister and brother still on my girlfriend's plan and it causes problems cuz she is stuck with the bill. Yeah and they don't have alot of money.

Answer 1

I'm first generation filipina too and she should just tell them they gotta pay for their own bills. She took the chance and moved away from them and in with you so this really shouldn't be an issue. She's started a new life and she should be straight with them. Eventually they will come to their senses plus they will always love her. That's just how filipino parents are, it's crazy

Answer 2

Your girlfriend needs to call her parents and explain that she can't keep paying for the siblings' phone bills. The siblings need to take care of their own bills, and the parents should agree with this. They need to grow up and accept some responsibility. Her parents should realize that since she is longer living with them that the siblings' bills should have stayed in their own home.

Yeah, she wanted to move away and buy a new car... But she didn't have to pay for people's cell phone bills. If she doesn't use their phones, then she shouldn't have to pay for them.

Answer 3

I'm not completely relizing why she is having to pay the whole bill.

But, just be honest & straight up with them. It's not that hard. And if they don't have a phone, it's not your girlfriends fault. Don't they have money? Can't they pay for their own phone?

Answer 4

your girlfriend's brother and sister are apparently using her, and EXPECT her to pay for their phone, i guess?

she doesn't have to. it's not that hard to contact these people and let them know that after X amount of time, they will have to get their own plans because she is discontinuing the phone plan.

they will have to suck it up and pay their own way.

i think they can.

Answer 5

that still has nothing to do with someone being taken advantage of tell her to cut them off let them no when she is going to cut them off and give them time to get a new one its not her responsibility to support her family and if she feels it is maybe you should consider a new girlfriend.

Answer 6

Have an open discussion and make them see the burden they had created.

If things cannot be improved, then as suggested by you, let the line go dead.

Answer 7

tu pagal hai uske ghar jakar puchle

Answer 8

talk to her about it and support her in confronting her family to make it easier for her