Ladies, Why do you allow a so called bad boy to treat you crappy and you deal with it, but when a nice guy makes a mistake or does something wrong you are so quick to end it?
2007-08-16 00:13:22 · 15 answers · asked by daddynard1010 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No mistakes on this end, but a similar experience with past relationship
2007-08-16 00:24:54 · update #1
Never been left by anyone so everyone can stop presuming. Its a general question
2007-08-16 00:48:03 · update #2
Because we expect it from the "bad boy" and it hurts more coming from someone we would least expect it to.
2007-08-16 00:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by JVar 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know....It must be very confusing for you guys. I've heard it's because of the cave man days. The females of the clan would gravitate toward the strong dominant male. That way the women would feel safe with the big dominate male, able to look after her and the children. In the animal kingdom it's the same, no female wants a wimpy small male who isn't strong enough to defend and look after the family.
It's the same with men. Men like small feminine women with good child bearing hips to procreate with.
Women these days want a strong, hard working provider who can stand up and maintain the family unit. A man who loves his family more then himself with a strong moral conviction.
That's what women want, believe me!
No lady wants to be treated crappy by any man. If a guy treats a lady badly, then he has no balls and shouldn't be called a man!
2007-08-16 07:36:51 · answer #2 · answered by Purity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you why. It may not make any sense, but here is my rationalization. Women(at least me) don't want to be with a man that is a wimp in the relationship. If he is, then he will get run over. Women want someone to stand up to them and tell them when they are acting like a creep. Someone to take charge... this is why women date the bad boys.
It's hard to stand up to the bad boys because we don't get what we want all the time and it drives us crazy! Who wants someone to be at their beck and call all the time... ? Not me... that's a disaster waiting to happen.
However, if you are dating a "nice guy" and he makes a mistake then it's easier to just dump him for several reasons depending on your motivation for doing so:
1) The woman knows that he probably could be using his efforts better by finding someone that will not take advantage of him. (My case)
2) She didn't really like him anyway.
3) She does like him, but wants a reaction from him and for him to return to his nice guy attitude so that she will again have the upper hand.
Like I said... doesn't make much sense, but from what I hear, this is typical from women.
The hard part is to find a guy that will be a man but doesn't have ALL of the negative qualities typical of a bad boy...
Thank goodness I found one :)
2007-08-16 07:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by Renn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find that many bad boys are wearing the nice guy's uniform. What did you do? If you are presenting yourself as a nice guy, the lady expects you to know better (hence the that standard you should meet).... Wolf in sheep clothing. You got caught and she left.
2007-08-16 07:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by new life abundant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because the girls whos with the bad boys wants to be treated crappy. but when we want to be treated nicely we go for the nice guys. the bad boys are always making mistakes, so if the nice ones make one, it seems terrible because its not your nature
2007-08-16 07:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The truth is (from what a couple of my female friends have told me) is that some girls like to be treated that way. They want you to get all jealous when you see them with another guy and things like that. But some of us are guilty of it to. We will mess with the girl who dont do anything for us but have a good girl that does and treat her wrong. Its just the person i guess
2007-08-16 07:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Amen Brother!!!
Not only that, but women say that they want a nice guy to date or marry, but always go for the bad boy type.
2007-08-16 07:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by hunt_ken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't let anyone treat me badly, not even a bad boy. For me there is a huge difference between a bad boy and an abusive jerk.
2007-08-16 07:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't let bad boys treat me crappy.
If you know a girl like that, or dated a girl like that, it's her problem. I would never let any guy treat me crappy, or he's history.
And everyone makes mistakes.
So, just choose better girls next time.
2007-08-16 07:19:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all ladies r like that,but if u make a mistake i think u should get another chance.
2007-08-16 07:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by nily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋