Well theres a girl in my class and shes a freshmen , im a junior and she is very attracting. Shes in my japanese class and I sometimes get the feeling shes looking at me on the corner of my eye. I get very nervous because im not sure if shes looking at me or one of her friends. Its kind of ackward for me a junior to talk to a freshmen or even hook up with one. I dont know her at all but want to get to know her as a friend first. Not sure how I should make a move to introduce myself because going up to her and saying my name is kind of nerve-racking. I sometimes look at her and I instantly turn my head when shes turning my direction. Not sure what to do?
2007-08-15 23:00:23 · 9 answers · asked by four_age 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't go after that, especially in high school. Find someone your age.
2007-08-15 23:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by Redeemer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'll give you what you want to hear and what I personally think:
What you want to hear: if you want to get to know her, no need to make a blunt introduction. Sit near her one day in class (as long as you don't have assigned seats, which sucks) and when a topic comes up in class or in a book, whatever, make a joke or comment about it to her. Then say something along the lines of "By the way, I'm ______. You're (name is) _____, right?" and there you go. After that, just talk before and after class; talking to girls is no different than talking to guys. You don't have to do anything special or change the way you talk; just talk normal (only if you swear a lot, don't do it as much).
What my personal opinion is: While you are within "acceptable" age range for dating a freshman, I don't suggest it. While you are a junior and are at or close to adult maturity, both physically and mentally, she is most likely still stuck between childhood and adolescence. This means if you ever start going out with her, she will probably be pretty hard to deal with as far as maturity and "drama" go. No harm in being friends, but I wouldn't recommend dating a freshman. Just my opinion.
2007-08-15 23:09:20 · answer #2 · answered by TheHonorableReese 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw her a friendly smile and try to get a seat closer to her when you can if it's possible... there's no harm in introducing yourself, just make it casual... even if you don't end up as 'an item', just to become friends is a great first step.
It's kind of a tough situation and I don't quite know how else you could approach it other than just being nice and introducing yourself. Good luck with it :)
2007-08-15 23:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to break the ice by saying something to her. Maybe something funny to make her laugh so she will remember you. Don't go shy on her or be akward. I know it is hard but you need to do it to start the ball rolling.
Friends are a big deal to a girl and they tell her what to do. If they don't like you then it is most likely that she won't want to lose her friends for a boy. Impress her friends by doing something nice for her. Don't let her push you around or use you as a doormat. For example, if she gets in trouble for something, tell the teacher that it is your fault as long as it won't get you expelled!
When you have impressed her friends and she knows who you are, summon up the courage and ask her if she wants to go ice skating or something. Sport is always good to get your hearts pumping and if she falls over, then you can be the one to save her! lol.
Don't wait too long or she will already have been snapped up by someone else.
Go for it and I hope it all goes well.
Good Luck Hun x
2007-08-15 23:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems you are creating some scenes in your mind yourself..where what you think actually does not exist. Better...dont think about these things and be what you are..if you feel you want to talk then..just walk upto her and introduce yourself and talk formally for first few times...and if she is interested..she will talk to you next time also..then slowly try to know her and there you can think of starting of relationship if you think you can...else just be friend and live happily... Cheers... :)
2007-08-15 23:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by anshu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, maybe just say hiiii
or tell her the weather.
introducing yourself is never a bad thing
but dont say it like "HI MY NAME IS JOEY"
in a loud tone
make it friendly, not creepy :3
also, since your in her japanese class
and you get to pick partners
pick her XD
2007-08-15 23:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by sw3etpinay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her the direct approach
2007-08-15 23:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think children should use this forum.
2007-08-15 23:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by art_flood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get to know her as friends first... step by step my friend...
2007-08-15 23:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by kchang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋