I don't understand you Men. I am young and cute, good in bed, love you to death but still not enough. I am 25 and have a 3year relationship with Him (30). Our life has changed and here we are .. you know that movie moment when he says " I am not ready" .. not ready to get into a more adult lifestyle. What is he doing with me then? Why doesn't he let me move on with my life?I have several guys hitting on me everyday and I don't know what I am doing with this person. I don't know what he wants to do..don't know if it's a temporary thing or I am just waiting for him to get tired of all this, meet some new girl and leave me. I feel like I am wasting my life, years are going by so fast and I am afraid I am not giving the "right person" the chance to get to know me because of him. What should I do? should I speak clear to this guy or not? I think I deserve it.
2007-08-15 22:50:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont understand what the real issue is here. You said it yourself, your young, cute, ect ect. Why wait when you have all of the necessary tools for success at your disposal? If you want to give him a chance then speak your intentions clearly. If he isnt ready to settle down, then there are plenty of other guys out there that are. They ARE out there.. dont settle for second best, because you will always wonder what you could have had. Good luck!
2007-08-15 23:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by JAG Soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what do you consider most important? Is it more important to you to stay with the man you love and give him time to figure things out, even if it is inopportune to you?
Or would you prefer to get back out into the world and enjoy the "exciting" life style that you are describing initially?
It all depends on what you want. If you feel deep down that you need this guy and he needs you, wait it out a bit. If you don't feel that, then what are you waiting for? Drop his a*s and find a guy who will appreciate you! True though, you are young and this isn't the 50's, so few of us marry in our early 20s now. You may not be young forever, but you'll be young for a while, so if you think you would enjoy your youth much better with the freedom to date many other wonderful people. You might as well take advantage of it, because if the average lifetime is 80 years, you got plenty of time to commit. Overall, it depends how you really consider your relationship.
P.S: By "not ready to get into a more adult lifestyle", I'm assuming you mean living together or getting married. If you mean "becoming more mature" then yeah, get a new guy because he's old enough to have matured thoroughly by now.
2007-08-16 06:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by TheHonorableReese 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have both of you sit down at a table with a piece of paper each, and pens to write with. Both of you write down what you want out of life and your relationship, and where you see yourselves in the next year. If you paper is drastically different than his, then you need to discuss your lives, and whether or not you two are meant for eachother. As with poker, you always need to be ready to dump a bad hand. As far as deals go, always be ready to walk away.
2007-08-16 06:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by "the Otter" 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, it applies to 1 man, not every man. basically the man chooses the woman, and if he wants you he'll do everything it takes to get you, and he won't take no for an answer, and he'll keep trying and trying. It is the man persuing the woman. If the man is not persuing you, then he's not going to. I would talk to him abou it. thought. he may just not be thinking clearly. I think if you put it to him that he needs to comitt or you will leave, then maybe he will step up. some guys don't make decisions quickly
2007-08-16 06:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by art_flood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you, you would like commitment and honor, yet you settle to be used.
you said it all-your good in bed-as the saying goes, "Why buy the cow if you can get free milk."
I suggest some help from above and to find true commitment because your worth it=and here is some help from above=spoken from heaven to share his love "I love you and knock on your heart door, to come in and forgive your sin (even one lie) when you ask me to (repent), and I will come in and be your friend." Revelation 1:1 chapter 1 verse 1 & 3:10&20
In his amazing grace, the sweet pea. John 3 asked Jesus to forgive me for even one lie, come into my heart to save me and be my friend, and as he says in this chapter got born again, amen.
Have a great day and prayin for you the best
2007-08-16 05:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you totally deserve your freedom of dumping this useless guy instead of wasting your precious time where you can spend it to find a better guy that he is. Get a grip girl! Don't let him step a over you!!! You rocks!
2007-08-16 05:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by tastesofheaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have given yourself the answer in your question hon...
"I am afraid I am not giving the "right person" the chance to get to know me because of him."
Since you obviously do not think he is the "right person," deep down you know what you need to do. Good luck.
2007-08-16 06:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by Tempus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is: What is wrong with you? You're miserable in this relationship and yet you stay. Sweep up the remnants of your self respect and move on already...
2007-08-16 05:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darl if yr bored with him then wat u doin?
just say its not working out babe im just not the right women 4 you youve got to old 2 quick either dont be so boring or ill have no choice but move on wat more can you do but hey once youve said this and nothing changed dont move on 2 quick choose carefully you dont 2 seem easy darl if you know wat i mean?
but hey its your life be free if you want have fun but still play hard 2 get turns guys on a litlle babe, dont forget the protection hehehe, he sounds a little borin 4 you darl though so id just end it and move on at 25 and cute and gr8 in bed you should be married darl hehehe but hey im cute was gr8 in bed and ive been single 9 yrs darl hehehe wat happened 2 me? hehehe i still go out but when i do seems all the girls stay home hehehe but hey thats my prob hehehehe
2007-08-16 06:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You effed up in your selection process. Don't blame all of us because he screwed you over. The answer is you chose an idiot as far as I can tell. I for one would welcome a nice girl if I met her or could find her. You should find someone new, period.
-NmD!
2007-08-16 06:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋