Here's the story. I'm a college student at 17 years old. Then there's this guy who graduated in the same university. He's 20. He's a total hottie, handsome, strong, have lots of black belts in martial arts, have female stalkers, have gay stalkers, etc.
Now, at first long ago, I had a crush on him. Later, when he graduated, he asked to see me in a mall. So, I went there and we met. While we were watching a movie, he kept grasping my hands, it felt creepy. I took it out of his hand a lot of times, yet he keeps taking it back.. After that, he keeps sending me "goodnight" everyday too.
Later, I found his such a clingy little baby, yes he is loyal, but for Christ sake! He always repeats his words like, "Remember I care!" x5 in a sentence, and whenever I don't want to meet him, he demands to know why.. He ask questions with obvious answers, and he said he'll wait for me no matter what even if I told him there's no chance. I need to find a way for him to leave me alone w/o hurting him.
2007-08-15 21:39:02 · 14 answers · asked by Regina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would tell him you do not have the same feelings for him and you want to be honest with him. You do not want him more than a passing friend. Tell him to move on with finding someone else who has the same feelings.
You can tell him you do not want to date at this point in your life because you are too young and you do Not want him to "wait" for you. This is your decision for him to move on. You are letting him go.
It sounds as though that may not work. Be honest and look him in the eye. Tell him he makes you feel very uncomfortable and you do not want him as more than a friend and will never like him in the way he wants. Tell him he should know how it feels to be "stalked", and you feel he is stalking you by texting you every day. You appreciate that he cares, but it is time to look for someone else. My prayers are with you.
2007-08-15 21:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The guy has gay issues he wants all of you. Tell him how you feel and tell him to back off. You are going to hurt his feelings but it's that or become his mate. He may even threaten suicide. If he does take him seriously call the police. Then get yourself an order of protection at your local courthouse. This guy could become violent. Unfortunately your only two choices are to become his bedmate or tell him to get lost. Real question is which do you want. This is not a gay issue he is emotionally unstable and needs mental health treatment. Your pushing him away may be the best thing that ever happened to him although he won't think so. How do I know? I used to have his problem.
No more meetings at all. It's getting dangerous for you. You never know when guys like him will pull out a gun and do a Columbine. He has been hurt in the past, but he has to get past this issue, so do you.
2007-08-16 04:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by Gary 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"I need to find a way for him to leave me alone w/o hurting him." Not within your power. You can't control his reaction. All you can do is present your side of things as kindly as possible.
"I've done a great deal of thinking about this, and I believe we shouldn't see each other anymore. We want different things in a relationship."
2007-08-16 04:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by Bill 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a job you got so much free time, he isnt serious. Just find a job and fill in that schedule of yours and he'll move off and ill promise you that, he just want someone thats available and no life but fun. he cant handle responsibility you can but best answer should be find a job.
2007-08-16 04:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no way your going to be able to tell him and not hurt him
but try telling him that your prioraties have changed and that you feel different about the way things are going. if he still doesn't listen then explain to him that your not ready for a relationship. if that doesn't work tell him that the age difference is making a big impact. tell him that you just want to have fun and your not ready to settle down, and that you feel that he is ready for a serious relationship.
2007-08-16 04:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Irma:]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to get rid of him without hurting him. He is clingy, but that's why it needs to be done. And it needs to be done clearly and firmy precisely, again, because he is clingy. After you tell him, make sure you have no further contact with him. Good luck and God bless!
2007-08-16 04:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him, but i dont think there will be any solution.....see honey u cant continue with some one like him as he doesnt seems to be mature enough, and if u wanna dump him, then dear you cant do this withour hurting him for sure.........kindly sit alone sometime with u urself and no one else around and think bout this....i am sure u are smart enough to think of something.
best of luck...and i hope for the best.
2007-08-16 04:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by sonalirawal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way too possessive. Break it off with him before things get worse and he gets even more attached.
2007-08-16 04:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by h1u4sxda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wan2 get rid of him??? try asking ur best frend to temporarily be ur boyfrend. until he sees the detail, he'll know wen to butt out... if this doesn't work, get a pepper spray and u'l know wat2 do with it...
2007-08-16 04:47:00 · answer #9 · answered by zykoe1208 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you dont want to be into any relationship, your just to busy trying to set your goals, and just focus in school. and if he demands tell him why.
2007-08-16 04:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by DancingInTheMoonlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋