I am not sure what the protocol is here. Can I have a bridesmaid or two...my man will be having a best man.
What have others done? Did you still carry flowers?. It is an intimate wedding at our home. Was thinking of having my older sister. She means the world to me. And if I did, can I just tell her to get herself any dress she would like? I really dont mind what she wears to be honest, it is not about the clothes but about the ceremony.
2007-08-15 21:05:44 · 13 answers · asked by bluegirl6 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Actually, there are very few rules for a casual or informal wedding at someone's home. A Bride, who has been married previously, really shouldn't wear a WHITE (off white or cream is OK) gown or a veil in front of her face.
Attire . . Simple wedding dress or sun dress or two-piece dress for the ladies and a jacket, casual slacks and a simple shirt for the gentlemen
I have witnessed Brides and Grooms dressed in . . .
Hawaiian type dress on the lady and a Hawaiian print shirt on the man
White sun dress on the lady and beige shorts on the man
T-shirt, blue jeans and bare feet on both people
Simple cream-colored wedding gown on the lady and dress slacks and pastel shirt on the man
"Dressy" chiffon pastel print dress on the lady and dark slacks, white shirt, and print tie on the man
A cocktail suit on the lady and dark suit with white shirt and striped tie on the man
And I have even witnessed a long white gown with a train on the Bride (her third marriage) and the Groom (his second marriage) dressed in "top hat and tails" at a home wedding
Most Brides and Grooms have one or two attendants each . . and I even remember one Bride having seven female attendants (sister, friends, and co-workers) at her casual at home wedding. The ladies all wore pink dresses (each lady was told to buy a short, pink dress that they liked and they they could wear again).
Yes, of course, you can carry a bouquet of flowers . . and so can your attendants.
All the wedding attire should be "on the same level of formality" which means if you are wearing a simple dress than the Groom should wear a nice pair of slacks and a pastel or striped shirt.
Just witnessed a wedding recently . . a second time Bride wore a short white wedding gown that was covered in crystals and beads and glitter plus a headpiece and veil . . and the Groom wore an old pair of beat-up denim shorts and a T-shirt that said "Eat at Joe's Pizza Parlor." Needless to say, it just looked ridiculous!
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-08-16 00:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by Avis B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A small wedding in a family home is great. Especially if you have a fireplace. Put candles on the mantle. A maid of honor and best man is all that is needed. Flowers, at least carry a rose. You will regret it later if you don't. Maybe coordinate your colors a little bit, but allow her to use what she has if at all possible. A nice suit for the guys. It would be nice if someone could play a piano or keyboard and at least play the music of your favorite song as you walk into the room. As for the rest of the traditions, you pick and chose what you want.
2007-08-16 00:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mom of 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is your second or twenty second wedding it does not matter and you can still do whatever you feel like doing. If it makes you happy to have bridesmaids then do it, if it makes you happy to have a formal ceremony then do it. You were right when you said the ceremony is all that matter. As long as there is a bride, groom a priest and a witness I don't think anything else should matter.....
Congratulations!!!!
2007-08-16 01:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can have an attendant or two. You can do what you want, it's your wedding. And it's entirely acceptable to ask your sister to wear whatever she feels most comfortable in, but I would let her know what you are wearing so it doesn't clash. It is still your day. A casual, informal wedding is just that. Don't stress so much, it'll all be fine in the end.
2007-08-15 21:13:14 · answer #4 · answered by momofoneson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes . . . for an informal 2nd wedding, people do have attendants. Usually not as many attendants as a formal first wedding, but one or two attendants on each side will be fine.
And yes, you can tell your sister to get herself any dress she would like. That's a good idea.
Good luck to you.
2007-08-16 01:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by Suz123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The 2nd marriage should be like the first one to me. HUGE ceremony at church - when possible- lotsa people joining your happiness to get married again...a lot of flowers, music, children running around, bridesmaids and especially The White Dress for you! You cannot just let the girls dressing the way they want..it is YOUR marriage. You must Get control over it!
2007-08-15 22:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course you can have bridesmaids, its a wedding isnt it? The fact it is your 2nd marriage is irrelevant. If you have only one bridesmaid, its a nice idea to have her choose her own dress. Youre on the right track.
2007-08-15 22:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probaly only a best man and a maid of honour. Yes, you carry flowers, and wear a beautiful dress - just not the big pouffy traditional type wedding one. And sure, just have your attendant wear something pretty.
2007-08-16 02:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes of course you can have bridesmaids, they can wear whatever you want them to and of course they can carry flowers, there are no legal obligations about those things, it's pretty much do as you please. It does not matter about the size of your wedding, you can have as many or as few bridesmaids as you like
2007-08-15 22:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends what YOU want.
I married young - 18, in a JP office. divorced...
second marriage i had three attendants, approx. 100 guests, cake, everything... i did artificial flowers - just because I wanted to keep them. It's fun to celebrate your marriage/wedding with your friends and family! No rules.
2007-08-16 01:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋