My friend has a really big crush on this guy. I don't think the crush will last and she doesn't even know him but i'm in the same position and i don't know him either. I dont' like every guy that comes along and she does. The guy would be really great for me, and my bff agrees with me. I wrote for my friend on the guys facebook, and she's not even telling him that it was me that wrote what was said. I feel like I have been betrayed but at some point have to forgive my friend because she truly has no idea she's hurt me. At the same time, I really like the guy, but I feel like even if I were to pursue something with him, that I would feel guilty all the time. What should I do?
2007-08-15 20:28:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
one simple line will answer this question
*all is fair in LOVE and war*
2007-08-15 20:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look crushes, between friends always is uncomfortable but really the best thing to do is to be honest with yourself and to your friend.
1) You both don't know the guy and you both like him
2) If you liked him too and your friend knows this and thinks he would be good for you -WHY would you write anything to help your friend get to know the guy you like too, you did that to yourself so don't be mad at her - but now you just complicated the situation by putting your feelings aside to do your friend a favor
3) So now what? Give it some time a week or so see if anything happens. Also don't hesitate to see if he responds to you eye contact, smile exchanges, hellos exchanged he might not be into either one of you.
If he doesn't resopnd at all to your friend then tell her your going for it you really like him - you already did her a favor and if she doesn't have the balls to go after what she wants, then her loss and she should support you to go after what you want
And like you said your friend likes every boy that comes along, and the crush won't last long there is nothing you should feel guilty about. You put aside your feelings to aide her, if it doesn't work out where he is interested in your friend she should put her feelings aside for you.
IF you make your own subtle moves and flirts with him NOW your not doing anything wrong you both like a guy he will decide who he likes best. If you had it in you to make the first move chances are he will be drawn to you more because your not afraid.
Good luck - hopefully you get the guy that you feel is great for you, and remember there is plenlty of fish in the sea.
2007-08-15 20:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by Dianna R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is more important to you? Pursuing a crush and risking a friend or keeping a friend and losing a crush? Sometimes you have to be the loser. But if this crush is something you really want and really feel will work, and if your friend is really close to you, talk to her about it. Maybe both of you will give up on him and settle it that way.
2007-08-15 20:38:14 · answer #3 · answered by Supy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who saw him first???
To save everyones' feeling and maybe a friendship, have you talked to your friend about it and told her how you feel about the guy? If she is just flirting with the guy and do not have real feeling for him and she knows how you feel she might just step aside for you (ideal situation).
But if she really likes the guy and won't step aside, then "the who saw him first rule" applies. Sorry.
Good luck. I hope it works out for you. Take care.
2007-08-15 20:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by pestergolf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats a tough one... This happened to my friend and I before. We both had a crush on the same girl. I talked to her more and first yet my friend thinks she likes him more, when they barely talk. I introduce them and he still acts stupid. He knew she liked me so he made fun of me so I would say something mean about the girl to prove I don't like her which I did. She got pissed and pretended to like him to get revenge on me. I felt betrayed by her, friend, and myself. Maybe you should talk to him too, I mean its his decision who he wants to be with. Your friend shouldn't get mad over it if he likes you better since she is your bff.
2007-08-15 20:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by Closed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls might find this to sound a little 'jerky' but... Before I actualy am going out with a girl.. my friends allways come first. They are much more important then my 'crush'.
2007-08-15 20:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by S L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know -- where are your priorities? Is this guy going to be in your life forever? Because if he isn't I am sure it will destroy your friendship - how important is your friend to you?
2007-08-15 20:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by Cinthia Round house kicking VT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes a hottie
hook up with him
go for it babe
it doesnt matter when your this young anyways
just find another hot guy
for your friend to date...
maybe this guy's friend?
the more the better :)
2007-08-15 20:33:23 · answer #8 · answered by jayaaa :) 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you care about your friend, you'd better look for a boyfriend elsewhere!!
2007-08-15 20:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
who knew him first? well i think if it was her, you should either tell her or just stay back. cus that like betrayler to her if you knew she liked him first
2007-08-15 20:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋