hey, i was just wondering if the mother of the bride actually buys a gift for the newlyweds.....since the brides parents pay for most of the wedding. Is it rude not to, what is expected of the brides family?
2007-08-15 19:55:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i'm actually the bride's sister, and maid of honor. I got her a gift already, but i was wondering if i should tell my mom to get one as well.
2007-08-16 10:08:06 · update #1
Traditionally the bride's family does purchase a gift for the couple. However, if you're paying a significant amount towards the wedding I really don't think it is necessary to get them a gift. If you wish you can put some money towards their honeymoon, but anything else is not needed.
2007-08-16 07:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are paying for all or even a part of the wedding, that is the "gift". But, also keep in mind how the money is presented. If the money for the wedding is presented as "Here's $xxx to go towards the centerpieces that I picked out" or "Here's $xxxx and here is the list of MY friends that you need to invite", that is not really a true gift since it comes with strings attached.
But, if the money is presented as "Here's $xxx, spend it on whatever you want: wedding, honeymoon, mortgage, savings account, etc", then that would be an appropiate gift.
Depending on the financial situation of the parents, it is customary to also give the couple a more tangible gift as well. This doesn't need to be expensive, as the money towards the wedding was the main gift.
Some ideas: Print a mother/child poem on pretty paper and then put it in a frame, or give a "gift certificate" to come and clean the new couple's house while they are on their honeymoon (coming back to a clean house and fresh sheets would be very nice), or get them a $10-$20 item off their registry, or a gift certificate for a local restaurant or movie theater.
2007-08-16 16:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by dma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since the brides parents r paying for most of the wedding, it is customary to give the bride and groom a gift of money from the parents to be used a part of their honeymoon or a deposit on their first apt or home. It is not required as the couple recieve money as wedding gifts, but if the parents can afford it, it is a nice gesture from both sets of parents.
2007-08-15 20:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I paid for our entire wedding ourselves. My in-laws paid for the rehearsal dinner - they felt that was something they wanted to do. But both sets of parents gave us money as a wedding gift at the reception. My feeling is if parents help to pay or foot the bill for the entire wedding, nothing else should be given. That's more than enough. But then it's a personal decision.
2007-08-16 05:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by Empress1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, not all brides parents pay for a wedding. with that said, every mother or father i know have given something to a new couple, usually a bigger gift that most of the guests. my MIL gave us a very sizable check and my mother gave us a washing machine. :) but everything depends on the situation the family is in, it is hard to expect anything or a specific thing.
2007-08-15 20:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by Christina V 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My parents paid for my entire wedding so I did not expect a gift from them. When we arrived at our honeymoon hotel we found a gift basket waiting for us from them. It contained food, flowers and a gift certificate to the restaurant at the hotel. I thought was a great gift.
2007-08-16 02:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is no obligation for anyone to buy any gifts, gifts are just that, a gift. Most parents choose to buy the couple something, but if you don't want to then you don't have to.
2007-08-15 22:25:50 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are paying for the wedding then I guess it lets you off an expensive gift, but something special to remember the day by would be nice.
2007-08-15 20:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, of course, and usually something quite memorable.
Remember it's rare these days for the bride's family to pay for the wedding - usually mature couples pay for their own.
2007-08-16 02:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
A gift for your daughter and her new husband should be affordable for you...but definitely give them something as a token of their special day
2007-08-15 20:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋