It has been over a week and I have still not heard from my Fiance in Iraq... I know blackouts happen but other people from Camp Taji have been able to get online... I have not gotten a phone call nor has he been online at all... I know this is part of being a military spouse/girlfriend, but Im just really worried that I havent heard anything from anyone, and i know in the military that no news is good news (for the most part). is there anyway to find out if he is injured or at worst dead? I know i shouldnt be worried, but I am this is the love of my life and Im new to this and not sure what to think right now... Please any advice?
2007-08-15 18:59:27 · 17 answers · asked by Puppylove2_2000 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Don't be worried, you will just make your self sick. He could be on a mission and yes communications become difficult. Have you had anyone from the FRG contact you during his deployment? Is there a phonetree advocate that calls you. Do you know who your FRG Rep is?
To be able to stay in contact with others from his unit is nice and you can make friends and learn postive ways to keep yourself busy while he is deployed. Your right ... no news is good news and I know it will drive you crazy but stay calm. Were you put on the list as a contact person? Does he have family that you can contact.
I know this is alot of questions, but, I am a phonetree advocate for my sons unit and to be able to talk to someone who is in the 'same boat' is helpful.
Has he been deployed long? Sometimes when they first get there it could take 3 to 4 weeks before you hear anything. Take a deep breath and try to stay calm. Write him a letter even if it turns into a long, long letter and mail it!
Take care and I hope you hear from him soon!! HOOAH!
You should only contact the Red Cross if it is an EMERGENCY, not hearing from him is NOT an emergent. Plus, he will get in trouble with his CO. AND if you contact his CO yep, he will get the chance to do alot of situps....been there done that for my daughter-in-law. He was on a mission his first deployment for 22 days, he is on his second deployment now.
2007-08-15 19:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by arhod9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my husband was in Iraq, he spent his extension in Taji and my brother was there during one of his tours there. My brother who is a fueler, called his wife pretty much daily and msg'd her a lot on the internet. When my husband was there, he didn't just not get a lot of time to call because of blackouts, but there were times when it would be 10 days or so that the wives in that platoon wouldn't hear from them because they were out on patrols and sent to places where there wasn't phone or internet access. Don't worry. No news is Good news. I am sure he is fine. Believe me there were times when I would want to pull my hair out because I didn't get a call and others may have, but remember not everyone is doing the same job, so while one spouse or fiance may hear from her guy every other day another spouse in the same battery or company may get a call once a week or so. It doesn't mean anything other then one is just doing a different job which requires more time.
2007-08-16 09:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by conroys_girl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God Bless you and your fiancee.
What does he do over there? Some guys have lots of time to get to the MWR computers but some dont. Sometimes work just crashes in and the normal 12 hour day goes into 18 or 20. He might be on mission to another base. Or, if he is in a combat unit he might be moved into one of the smaller "in the community" stations right now and just have no access.
Keep praying for him. And contact the unit Rear Detachement commander. They can tell you instantly if there was anything bad that happened. And they might send a message of "Tell Jonny to call his girl" but you better be pretty sick to your stomach because Soldiers *hate* getting those messages.
Your unit Family Readiness Group can also be a great help. Your not 'official' since your not married yet but I bet the ladies in the FRG will take you under their wing and help you thru this deployment. They know (from personal experience) that the deployment is as hard on those left behind as those on the front line.
In case of a true emergency contact your local Red Cross and tell them you need to get an emergency message to a deployed Soldier. How fast it gets there depends on the accuracy of the information you give (unit he is assigned to, location overseas, company / battalion commander's name, etc...)
Check out at least the first link -- it is a FAQ for families of deployed Soldiers.
Good luck and God Bless you both!
2007-08-16 02:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by SMBR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a military wife I can relate to your feelings. I have went through numerous deployments over the past 11 years and they do not get easier let me tell you. My husband has been to Iraq a couple times and its hard I know. It is true " no news is good news" . I am sure when he is able he will contact you . He is probably anxious to talk to you too. I know wives who did not hear from there husbands while in Iraq for over a month. Just take it day by day and over time things will relax.
2007-08-16 02:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by ladyusmc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
been there done that girl. i feel your pain and i know how worried you are. just hang in there and u will see he will call. between blackout and missions its crazy. camp taji is not too good with the communications. he should think about getting a cell phone so that he could just call u without having to stand in line. my cousin has that and my x fiance had some phone service where i could call his computer and he could call me. i dont knowhow he did it though.
2007-08-16 11:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ missing a soldier in Iraq ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound harsh as all hell, but if he dies, you'll know.
As far as I know, Taji is pretty much status quo right now. He probably just doesn't have a lot of time right now. That tends to happen over here, for a random couple of weeks you just don't seem to have any free time whatsoever.
2007-08-16 02:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by DOOM 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hold steadfast. When Vietnam was going on, a lot of military personnel were busy, caught up in something, or just didn't have right then what was needed to communicate. Mail can get lost, sent to wrong addresses, numerous things. Leave your anxieties with the LORD, HE got you to it, HE will get you through it. Be patient, I know, easy said than done, or I am not in your shoes, but I do understand.
2007-08-16 02:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by Roland K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The first time my husband (then fiance) was in Iraq, this was very common. I could hear from him every day then all of a sudden, I wouldn't hear from him for 2 to 5 weeks sometimes.
Various reasons, some he couldn't disclose (which 1 I am assuming some "battling" as he was slightly wounded and attitude was different) but he couldnt' disclose things to even me. But the other reasons, was non-fighting, but military status that no one is allowed to know. Then there was some reasons of the phones and computers where just shut down or not working properly or he went to the field (no access to anything of sort).
This time as he is Iraq again (now married), he calls me every night. Once in a blue moon he can't due to the phone lines are down, switching satalights which makes the phone system-communication suck or he has to do something he can't disclose.
You would of known by now if something happened to him. His next of kin would of been notified. As he is your fiance, you would of been notified by whoever is next of kin (plus, media would of disclosed it to public once released by now).
Next of kin, whoever he has (not sure if he put you or his parents as you didn't disclose that) would of been notified if seriously hurt or death. Hurt is a phone call. Death is men at door step is how my husband puts it.
I had power of attorney when my husband went in the first time. I bought our first truck while he was there and had to have it prior to him leaving before I can. So, I can help do any tax's. Quite stupid but I had to have the power of attorney just to change my last name at the bank (we both are jointly at) when we got married (as by time I changed it a month after we got married, he was in Iraq)!
anyways, just wait and I am sure he is just as anxious to talk to you as you are to him. My husband was/still is worried when we don't get to talk. He wants to make sure I am okay. If I dont answer, he calls my mom's phone, step dad phone, house phone (as he calls my cell) until he can get ahold of someone to make sure I am ok lol.
Need to talk, hit me up.
2007-08-16 03:29:18 · answer #8 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taji has a long line for the phones and the computers.. give it a while, he'll call.
2007-08-16 02:11:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OPSEC!!! You should never disclose his actual location to anyone online.
It is common to not here for certain periods of time, he could be on a mission, busy at work, etc. No news is good news. I wouldnt hear from my husband for weeks sometimes and others he would contact me every day. Try to be patient, send him cards and/or care packages.
2007-08-16 09:26:04 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋