I'm 19 and I love my girlfriend of three years, she's also 19. Bad things happened to her in the past by bad family members and she never told anyone but me. Now she has told her family and she is having a hard time watching the family fall apart. She asks me to be with her alot now, I guess to feel safe. Would it be ok to ask her to marry me now?
2007-08-15 18:12:36 · 6 answers · asked by Robert C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you really can't wait ... then go ahead !! but if you're not 100% sure, it's best to wait a while. It's all up to you in the end!! Give her hints (eg. "hey, honey, do you see us being in the future together forever ..." ) or be more subtle...
But at the end of the day, it's up to you. if it feels right, then i suggest you propose :) but there's no harm in waiting! You're only 19, after all... there's no rush if it doesnt feel right in any way!
Good luck, hope this helps and if you go through with it and she accepts, i'm sure she'll be a lucky girl :) remember always treat her right , hey ?..
Good luck =)
2007-08-15 20:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ уσυ вєℓσηg ωιтн мє ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it might seem to be a positive action, asking your girlfriend to marry you while she's in the middle of a family breakdown would probably add a lot more stress to an already painful and nerve-wracking experience for her.
Continue to be there for her, but give her plenty of emotional room to deal with the pain she's going through. Nineteen is relatively young to start a family, even in the most well-adjusted lives. Trying to do it in a situation where the concept of family is equivalent to emotional betrayal and heartbreak will be a real struggle now and in the future, even though she finds safety and security in your company.
2007-08-16 01:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Palmerpath 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to get married.You will feel tied down and you will end up resenting her for it. You are actually too young to have a girlfriend. How can you experience differences in women if you don't sample the goods. Play the field, meet women and have fun while you are young. There is plenty of time for a serious relationship later. Heck you're only 19.
2007-08-16 01:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by Brewski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would wait until the family stuff has calmed down a bit. Marriage is a very serious step. You need to talk about and plan it with level heads and not when she has all this family emotion going on.
2007-08-16 01:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by Steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um im not sure if right now is totally right .
unless shes happy , then bringing that suprise will make her even more happy .
but dont make it noticable that you want to proppose,
or else she'll be waiting and when you finally do it she'll feel releved but kinda pissed
2007-08-16 01:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by QueenJane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think you are to young. You shouldn't marry her out of pity because, if you don't love her then don't marry her. You can invite her to live with you (if you own your own house/apartment).
2007-08-16 01:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋