Should I be mad??

Question

I have been talking to this guy I met for a week, and we've already admitted to liking each other, he calls me baby I call him stud, you know it's like we're practically dating..but we're not, I think we're still "friends". Well yesterday he IMed me and I asked if he did anything fun that day, his response was just "yeah", so wanting to further the conversation I asked what, HE said: "made out, played pool, and fingered someone".

UHM...THANK YOU. I cried a little bit. then I cried because I was crying over something so stupid, I mean if we aren't dating I guess i can't exactly be mad...or can I? I am, I just don't know if I should confront him or not.

What do you mean "talking on the phone." I met him in person, I've known him for like a year but barely.

Answer 1

one word GET OVER THAT **** obviosly if he told u he likes u then runs off fingering someone else he just messin with ya and those ppl are the cheaters in the relationship sooner or later he might be fingering ur mom or best friends or somthing soo ya and if he has the nerves to tell u then he dont feel like u guys r dating and i dont think he even likes u so get over him there are more hotter ppl out in the world and y do woman always forgettin this THERE IS OTHER MAN OUT THERE !!!!!!

Answer 2

You aren't technically dating. Why not? There must be a reason. Perhaps he does not feel totally the same about you. A lot of people in general, like the idea of being 'liked' even if they have no intention of furthering the relationship along. I think they are called 'players.' And it sounds to me like this guy said these things to you to get a reaction. And it worked. He probably did none of the things he mentioned. But your curiousity gave him an opening to string you along. Should you be mad? Not really mad. But I'm sure it does hurt some when he knows you have feelings for him and purposely played that against you. I would simply act like it didn't bother you at all. I would not give him the satisfaction of knowing he made you feel bad. On the otherhand, if you really want something to happen with this guy, perhaps you need to take a new approach. Push things along a little more, you know? Maybe ask him to go somewhere with you, so you can actually have a real date. If this is, in fact, a person you really want to date. Honestly, he just sounds very immature to me.

Answer 3

The guy was spelling it out to you (and good for him for being upfront) that he wasn't interested in anything but a casual relationship with you. That being said, he could have done it with a little more tact.

On your part, you are *WAY* too attached to someone you just met/starting talking to. My suggestion is, knowing he doesn't want anything serious, and knowing you like him more than you should, you should just move on. He's only going to end up hurting you more in the long run.

Whatever you do, DO NOT have sex with this guy. He obviously takes sex way too casually, and you can't know how many partners he has.

Answer 4

He shouldn't have told you what he did with someone else. It sounds like he wants to be friends and he likes to play games. Don't be upset as it is not worth it. Until you are officially bf/gf don't fret over it. Also, if you like him that much ask him straight out if he could be honest and faithful if your relationship hits it off or is he just intersted in friendship that consists of sex. Take care and you will find the answers you are looking for within.

Answer 5

that totally sucks that happened, but your right, you arent dating, you guys arent seeing each other or even made it clear where u stand or anything other than you like eachother but what does that mean kinda thing, and until you have that converation there isnt much you can do, and if you do feel that strongly about him to the point he affects ur feelings that much, then tell him, explain you like him and it hurt to hear that and maybe things will go further, you wont clear anything up unless you do have that conversation, so good luck!

Answer 6

Listen, no one is suppose to be playing with ur head like that, he's just leaving u know that he's fooling around n that's what he expects of u, now it's up to u to be another fool like all the rest girls out there. Women need to stop making excuses for men n go with their instincts(ur 1st instinct about someone is always the right one).

Answer 7

jeez, he just came out and said that!! That's just lame on his part. Ya know, my father told me that guys don't really grown up until 30sec before they die and now I'm starting to believe it. He could have done this for one of 2 reasons: 1 he wanted to see how you'd react 2 he really is a jerk. I would personally forget that I liked him and downgrade the relationship to acquaintances. That type of drama from a guy is just too much baggage to take on. Be mad, be hurt... tell him if you are not much into playing games, don't tell him if you are. Just my opinion. This kinda reminds me of when I caught my ex having text sex.... Guys really need to heed the golden rule sometimes. lots of luck

Answer 8

If he likes you, he shouldn't have said that but then again you all are just friends but I would have confronted him because he admitted to liking you.. Find out if his feelings for you are the same..

Answer 9

technically no...its not your problem since you two arent together. but if he was giving you the signal that you two were gonna go out, then f that guy, seriously punch that sucker in the face. dont trust him, no matter how nice and stuff he was, trust me, i know these things. so just dith him, and if he asks why, tell him you think he was just playing you. and no matter what, or how apologetic he sounds, dont fall for it, youll only kill yourself in the end. hes just gonna be lying, cuz if he does apologize nd all that stuff, then you can just ask yourself why he was giving you the signals and yet he was f'ing around behind your back. trust me on this one. i promise you no wrong.

Answer 10

Yes and no. Good men know to not look at other women, when with a woman. They also know to not talk about other women, unless asked. All I can say tonight, Miss, is get someone better. even me.