Should i feel bad that this happened?

Question

Should i feel bad that this happened?
To put it short my friend and i graduated from law school. We applied to the same firm for jobs. However she is dating an older guy with connections and he got her a higher positionin the firm and i got an entry level one, i didn't begrudge her though.
However one year down the track i have been promoted several times and was at the same level as her (she never recieved a promotion) till recently when i was put above her.
She is now angry saying that i stole her promotion, i however don't feel bad for doing so, she had a whole year to prove herself and didn't advance at all.
Should i feel atleast a little guilty or not at all.
Why, Why not

Answer 1

No, she got her position from her positions. You have proven yourself and deserve the money/prestige. What I would reccomend is that you act like nothing has happened and if she brings it up, tell her to work harder.
You will make partner and she will be fired if she doesn't get her act together. Watch her like a hawk, if promotions start coming really rapidly and her work habits haven't changed significantly, there should be alarm bells and I would look at whether she is doing the boss to get ahead.

Answer 2

You should not feel guilty at all. You worked for your promotions. I would sit down and ask her how you stole her promotion? It's not like you went and did anything to make them give it to you. Just your Job. Make a point that your the one that started at the bottom when she got a nice position when she started and that you worked really hard to get where you are. And that if she was a friend she would be proud of you instead of being jealous.

Answer 3

If she used her boyfriend to get a promotion to begin with, and couldn't move up from there, you should not feel bad.

Something people should realize when they use people like that is that just because it gets you a higher position at the time, there is no long-term guarantee for it. She screwed up, and didn't even bother to make sure she kept on the fast track by proving herself.

Enjoy your promotion and prestige. You did it the right way.

Answer 4

Don't feel guilty at all. You put in the hard work and effort without any special advantages. It's immature of her to say that you stole the promotion when it's clear as you said that she had a whole year to prove herself.

Answer 5

You should not feel guilty. If anything she should feel guilty because she got a higher position based on who she knew, not her talents. In order to get those promotions, you worked very, very hard and earned them. You should feel proud that you have such a strong work ethic and that it is being recognized and rewarded by your bosses.

Answer 6

Guilty for what ?
Did you read your own post ?
What was there to feel guilty about ?
And you say you are an attorney ?
But you are confused over this simple occurrence ?
Are you like maybe , a patent attorney or something ?

And I'm confused about her , she is a college grad and she is angry . . . claiming you stole the promo ?

Please tell me she is Not representing any clients directly . Her brain process is on par with a high school dropout !

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Answer 7

No, you shouldn't feel guilty... you were promoted honestly. It's ok to feel sorry that she didn't get promoted, but you shouldn't be guilty that you got promoted.

Answer 8

you've apparently proved yourself worthy of the promotion,,,like you said,,,shes had a year....bravo for you!

Answer 9

No you shouldn't. Like you said, she had a whole year to advance and she didn't, it's her fault.