I got like 10 girls liking me, but i'm so dumb and nervous to ask them out. I know the fellas should do it, but doesn't anyone else think it would be great if the ladies would make things alittle easier if they tried sometimes?
2007-08-15 17:55:11 · 15 answers · asked by hotsauce_ross7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They do. At least in my experience. And I live in the scariest, most backwards place in the world: the bible belt.
To bobbi: How is he leading them on anymore than they're leading him on?
2007-08-15 17:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by kenny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hold your breath for that to happen. Looking back 40 years (which I hate like the dickens to admit), women have claimed the right since the late 1960s to an equal opportunity to ask guys out. The probability of this becoming common practice ranks somewhere between snowball in hell and when pigs sprout wings and fly. Although claiming the right, when asked whether they actually would the answer is always the same : "Oh, I just couldn't!"
There is a paradox here. Women actually do, quite often, select their mates. They do it in a very sly fashion, though. A psychologist watched interactions in bars and noticed that men would approach women, and be accepted or rejected on the basis of body language alone. A man could start out and be stopped cold in his tracks halfway across the room if the woman rejected him. Or he could be encouraged onward.
Sorry I can't give you more to go on, but I'm playing the game myself. Notice little things, pay little unexpected compliments, offer little trivial gifts, ask them out for little encounters. Don't try for an extravagant display, and NEVER, EVER pour out your feelings for her. Not until you two are really close--like bound at the wrist and ankle. It's a terrible burden to put on someone if they don't feel the same way about you. A gentleman wouldn't do that. Be a gentleman even if it allows her a graceful exit. You'll get a reputation that will keep making it easier.
2007-08-15 18:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, seriously. Guys are such wussies now a days. Grow a set. You are supposed to make girls feel special. When my best friend got married the pastor told her and her husband that all he had to do was make her feel special and happy and he would have everything he ever wanted because she would make sure of it. I have never agreed with anything more that is a man's job and if more men did their job there would be less breakups and divorces. And guys it really is not that difficult we are much simpler than you make us out to be. If you have 10 girls chasing and one says no, next.... How do you think they feel asking a guy out that has a bunch of girls chasing after him. Maybe dumb and nervous... In general girls go after guys that are a sure thing that's why so many good girls end up with loser guys.
2007-08-15 18:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by glismo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are now in the 21st century, and the rules are changed. It is perfectly alright if and when a woman asks a man out.In fact, a lot of men love a woman who is confident enough to go after what she wants.As to your specific problem, you have ten girls whom you should encouraged to ask you out on dates( you should do some asking yourself)Play it bu ear and see what happens.I am sure things will become much clearer for you.Good luck p/s--ten girls ;you know are just too much for one man.
2007-08-15 18:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi mate:
as the modern era guy, I wouldn't say no if a girl asked me out. In fact, I would think she's pretty cool and admire her for her straight forward approach.
However, as a man, I still would take the traditional approach and ask her out if I really liked her. I'm not interested in playing around.
Mate, its great you've got so many girls after you. Just don't break their hearts.
Chuck.
2007-08-15 18:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by **** 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You gotta pick one, be a Man and ask her out. If that don't work, you have 9 more to go. It's like going in a cold pool...sometimes you just gotta jump in.
And the gals do expect the guys to ask them out...after all it's the guy paying the bill.
2007-08-15 18:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of that is completely ok for a girl to ask a guy out on a date. If this got here about extra oftentimes ladies could quickly understand that they could discover extra perfect adult men to convey into their lives.
2016-10-10 08:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by duffina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be great. 10 girls? If that's a problem, I wish I had it.
2007-08-15 17:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women who are secure do, all the time. Grow up a little, and you will see what I mean.
2007-08-15 18:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by CarlisleGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the guy should ask a girl out
2007-08-15 17:59:32 · answer #10 · answered by manda 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋