I'm definitely vocal with my friends about not sleeping around and waiting to have sex until they are married, but one really got to me. He said, how do you know if she's a girl if you never touched her down there? Then he sent an email filled with articles about guys finding out their "girlfriends" were really guys.
Is it wise then to do some recon? I've never done it myself thinking that once there it's only a short sprint to home.
2007-08-15 17:46:07 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Your situation is humorous but maintain your conviction if it makes you feel better. You should round the bases atleast once before you tie the knot.
2007-08-15 17:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by Patrick the Carpathian, CaFO 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Now first of all, if you are dating a Christian, they wouldn't be lying to you in the first place.
Secondly, one should not rush into marriage because it is a Covenant, not just a mere contract. That is why engagements are typically long - sometimes a year or more. You are supposed to spend the time getting to know one another. Getting to know the true character of the person to whom you are engaged.
Getting to know the physical bumps and crevices can wait until after the nuptials.
As for the males masquerading as females, I don't think it is as common as you were led to believe.
2007-08-16 00:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by Barry F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense to you, but why would you care so much about your friends' sex lives? Aren't they entitled to their own choice of having pre-marital sex as you are to be abstinent?
How is their "sleeping around" affecting your life?
Secondly, if you are a christian, where in the bible does it state that pre-marital sex is wrong?
The koline Greek word "porneia", was incorrectly (and purposely) translated as "fornication". Its correct meaning is "sexual immorality", which, according to the Jewish law was not related to singles consenting to have sex.
I think its fine if you want to remain abstinent, that's your decision, but why impose your ideals over others?
And if you want test drive that baby, nothing wrong with it either, evidently the bible doesn't say its wrong.
2007-08-16 01:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by Quelararí 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are praying for a spouse and God has put a person on your heart then NO! If you are a Christian then NO! Sex is to be in marriage only. If you have doubts then the person is wrong for you. If it is a lack of trust then hire a deductive to do a back ground check.
2007-08-16 00:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by Curtis 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i think your doing good with the waiting until marriage. its hard for people sometimes. dont let your friends screw you up with all this crap. youve got the right idea. Wait.
oh, and no recon. you sound like ur in the military. jeez.
2007-08-16 00:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by im_not_who_i_was 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you are part of a healthy interactive community, your "sisters" will know.
besides, you can have a marriage annulled if it cannot be consummated. you are not obligated to keep the vow if you are deceived into believing the person is a woman if she is actually a man.
2007-08-16 00:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by TEK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you're gonna know if the love of ur life is a man or woman.. just cuz ur saving urself doesnt mean you can't explore with your hands. Thats one way you'll know. And anyway, if u did get married, and turned out to be a guy, you could get a divorce on terms of fraud.. and you'll get all the stuff!!!!
2007-08-16 00:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by lilmomma86 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
LOL I don't think you need to worry so much about that. If you get married and find out she isn't really a girl, you can get it annulled. After all, you wouldn't consummate such a marriage! This really is truly silly. Blessings to you, and best wishes for a female bride :)
2007-08-16 00:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by Daisy J 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Jeez, if a guy ain't sure, he is either blind or drunk.
Good for you, don't have sex till you get married. All that stuff about doing "recon" is a line...bull.
2007-08-16 00:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by Cleetus C 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Would you buy a car, without test driving it first?
Seriously...sex plays a big part in marriage. Isn't it better to find out if you're compatible with someone on that level before saying "til death do us part"?
2007-08-16 00:57:18 · answer #10 · answered by Bill K Atheist Goodfella 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋