i have a friend that is marrying her first cousin. she has known him her whole life but was never around him. she says it's ok because they will not have kids and there is nothing wrong with it because people have been marrying cousins since the Bible. Is she right? i feel confused about this. i mean, she is my friend.
2007-08-15 17:21:48 · 22 answers · asked by butterflygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It really depends on your perception of what's morally right or wrong. Yes indeed, since Biblical time people have married their first cousins, even up until today, and while most people consider it repulsive there is really nothing "wrong" about it unless you prefer to see it that way.
Many people try to use themselves for this example by saying "Well that's sick 'cause I'd never marry my cousin, that's f*cking gross!" But since that is their perception, they can never really see or feel what it would be like in your friend's situation. Just because other people say something is wrong doesn't mean it is, and if you really think about it, they aren't really "harming" anyone in any way by doing what they are doing.
As for the "inbreeding theory", supposedly it's only really a problem to offspring if it's between father and daughter or really close family members like that, or after several generations of inbreeding. There may be a slight chance of some defect in a baby, but I think that's been way over-hyped by moral Christian groups and whatnot.
2007-08-15 17:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by TheHonorableReese 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you're contradicting yourself here. You state "She has known him her whole life but was never around him". How can she know him and not be around him??
Also, as some have already stated, marrying cousins is taboo in some cultures/societies and not in others. In America, in some States it's legal to do so. In other countries, it happens and yes, they do have healthy children.
But, why would your friend want to marry her cousin. Does he have a big penis that she can't live without?? Is he wealthy and she can't live without his money?? What's her motivation? If she claims that no children will be had, is she sterile or is he? Or will they depend on the Pill and condoms for as long as they can (and neither one is 100% effective; even together they are not 100% effective in preventing a pregnancy)?
If they do have children, start looking for their kids to have deformed heads, mishapen or missing appendages, very short statures, and other health maladies.
2007-08-15 17:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by Terry E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once upon a time (It may still be accepted in some places) it was common practise to marry your cousin. Especially in the Monarch.
But over time that was filtered out so that it was no-longer accepted nor allowed and people were to marry only 2nd cousins. (Your parents cousins childrens for example.)
However, don't be surprised if you ask people in school if one of their first kisses have been with their cousin. Or if they've had a crush on their cousin or better yet both!!
2007-08-15 17:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My uncle is a genealogist.
If you had ancestors before 1800, chances are at least one of them married a first cousin.
(That "before 1800" was a joke. We ALL had ancestors before 1800. Some of us have found them, or our uncle has, some haven't.)
If you Google "first cousin marry" you'll find scads of sites.
If cousins continue to marry each other, and there is hemophilia or any of a number of other genetic disorders around, you get into trouble; the Royal families of Europe ran into that in the late 1800's and early 1900's. But just once is fine. Stop worrying.
2007-08-15 17:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anne Jovie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dating and marrying your first cousin.. isnt right.. not sure what bible shes reading.. the Incest handbook maybe lol..
No but into you question, sounds like she needs bit of help. I would try to slowly move on... I wouldnt want to socialize with someone with those kind of morals... Just think about it.. your conscious will tell u the answer....
2007-08-15 17:28:00 · answer #5 · answered by RAIN 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
remarkable its now no longer undesirable or unlawful yet its marvelous. I recommend dude he's your cousin. there is something reported as Kissing Cousins yet i had no theory that it substitute into like that haha so in case you reported because it that perhaps yet i although think of its kinda marvelous cuzz i recommend he's your cousin. stay out section da fam to maintain subject concerns extra helpful sparkling that could desire to get messy lols. yet its your decision dont enable us make your opportunities.
2016-11-12 11:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by oppie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the culture and upbringing that they come from - but it is not looked on kindly in certain parts of the country...
It is LEGAL in certain states, and ILLEGAL in others - see the second link below to see which ones...
If you are her friend, then you should respect her decision - but if you are a DEVOUT follower of the Bible, you will know that such relationships are PROHIBITED (see third link)
2007-08-15 17:32:32 · answer #7 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think its right personally..However they say like anything after your 3 cousin is fine to marry, but I still think its crazy and weird! but that's just me.
2007-08-15 17:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by Stacey22 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marrying cousins is actually acceptable in some cultures in certain parts of the world. although it may seem vulgar to us, some cousins marry, have healthy children, and live healthy lives.
2007-08-15 17:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by 412envy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
they say it's alright to marry ur 1st cousin but me personally i would never marry my cousin. but that's me sum ppl do diffrent things.
2007-08-15 17:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by <3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋