My step-son just turned 2 years old and my husband and I have been trying to potty train him for a while now. When he is over here at our house he wears pull-ups, but when he comes back from his mothers house to our house he is always in diapers?We even sent some pull ups home with him one time.She told us that she has some already. Yet he is always wearing a diaper! How can my husband say something to her without her getting defensive on her helping us potty-train him?
2007-08-15 17:14:24 · 13 answers · asked by lilzar 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He does let us know when he has pooped, and sometimes he tells us before. So he has the concept down. I just think that if she were doing the same we would have better results. He does also know how to get his pull-ups down...he likes to get totally naked when he goes potty...LOL
2007-08-15 17:27:00 · update #1
We are doing good on the actual potty-training part, what I really need advice on is how we can talk to his mother about her keeping him in diapers without her getting defensive.
2007-08-15 17:47:38 · update #2
Maybe you can just ask her if she can start helping you guys potty train him. Maybe say something like if I send the pull-ups with him to your house do you think that you can help us to get him touse the potty? That's about all I can think of for now. Let me know how it goes. I'm in the process of potty training my 3 year old boy & we're having problems but I think it's maybe either he is lazy or just a little on the slow side.
2007-08-15 17:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
your Husband needs to get on the phone and call her about this issue. If she agrees to help potty train then y'all need to be doing the same stuff at both homes. When I trained my boys I used underwear or the cloth training pants. At night I used the diapers because they are cheaper than the pull up's and are a better fit. The potty training will go so much smoother if both households were on the same page. It is very difficult to be the step parent, hang in there.
2007-08-15 18:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by Messy Jessy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just potty trained my son and daughter. My kids did not seem to distinguish between pullups and diapers. What worked for me was The Potty Stool http://www.thepottystool.com I started by just setting it at the toilet. My kids immediately climbed up on the stool and discovered that they could safely use the toilet. This got them very interested in using the toilet and they were potty trained very quickly.
It really helps boys to pee standing up so they can see what is happening and connect the sensations. The Potty Stool lets boys pee standing right into the toilet with no mess.
I like that I don't have to double the steps of potty training by training them first in a potty and then training them to stop using a potty. And not dumping and cleaning a potty each time is great. The best thing is that kids use it for years. I hope this helps you.
2007-08-15 17:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you keep changing kids into diapers and the training pants it makes them confused. If you feel that he is ready to be potty trained the i would just get him some padded underwear (training pants not pull ups) and keep him like that the thing is everyone really has to keep up with it or he will never learn then if you do that them she may not put him diapers anymore. Good luck
2007-08-15 19:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by jessiegirl33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We used pull-ups for a long time, and I would have to agree that they are pretty much just like a diaper, at least as far as the toddler's concerned. It wasn't until I started to put my 2yo daughter in cloth training pants (Gerber brand from target or walmart) that she really "got" the idea of being wet vs. using the potty to stay dry.
Maybe his mom is trying to instill this kind of thinking? (i.e., that cloth is a quicker teacher) If so, you could could meet in the middle and suggest the cloth training pants route. They are basically padded underwear, easy to get on/off, and a big confidence boost for toddlers (NOT a diaper anymore...diapers are for babies, etc.). My girl LOVES wearing them b/c she feels that she is no longer a baby. There are definitely accidents in the beginning, but she got it pretty fast as soon as we transitioned.
2007-08-15 17:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by EmilyJane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The average boy isn't ready to pottytrain until 3 1/2 years old and in my experience the pullups and diapers are the same to a 2 year old so it doesn't matter. In order to be pottytrained there has to be consistancy in taking him to the potty and working together. A reward system to make it worth the childs time. He must be able to tell you he has to potty (even if it is after he already had an accident, that is still a step) and has to get his pants up and down. Underware help a child understand that they are wet/poopy a lot faster. This is a matter between mom and dad and until she is ready to pottytrain him (and he is ready) you will not have success.
2007-08-15 17:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by momof3boys 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Me my sister and my brother were potty trained by one in a half. My mom used training undies with the plastic pants over them. Diapers and pull ups do not help the child feel the grossness of peeing and pooping themselves. I would just directly tell her this needs to be a joint effort not just one sided. Good Luck
2007-08-15 17:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is know easy way to go about it , but you all need to sit together and talk about even if it is the last thing you want to do. What you have to do is think of the child.
If he keeps coming to you in diapers then maybe the mother cannot afford the pull up, you might suggest that you will supply these if it is feasible to your own budget.
2007-08-15 17:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by Elmutnobber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-30 21:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually i have a 3yr old girl and she never wore pull ups she had problems getting them up and she got frustrated. really it dosent really matter what undergarments they wear when their ready to use the potty they will. still try to let him know its a good thing but dont push to hard or it will never work. she is now completely trained. 2 is pretty young yet we started about 2 1/2 it dosent seem like a big difference in age but it really is. just be patient it will come
2007-08-15 17:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋