My first baby was a wonderful surprise. Being that she is 3 now, we would like another baby to "complete the family". How did you know it was time to have the second baby and is it easier than the first child as far as the infant and toddler stage? I've been having "baby fever" for a year, but I keep making excuses like "i need to finish school, need to make more money, its hard enough with just one!". I see pregnant women and I get jealous! I'm not sure where to put these thoughts until # 2 comes, and it may be a while. I'm 25.
2007-08-15 17:14:04 · 5 answers · asked by smartestgirl_alive 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
...i'm not very financially stable at the moment, but we could make it work. its more of an emotional/mental state of mine
2007-08-15 17:35:54 · update #1
it was really bizarre, i was putting my sons pyjamas on after his bath and then it just dawned on me that i was ready for another, it was this really weird feeling.
so then i talked my partner into it, hehe.
about a year later we finally conceived, after trying and trying and then eventually just giving up. so now we have a 3 yrs old boy and a 5mth old little girl. i didn't want too much of an age gap between my kids.
i was two years through my degree also, so i put that on hold. i plan to return part time next semester.
having two... well i wouldn't say its any harder, you just really need to have good time management and establish a good routine early on.
whenever it happens will be the right time because you will make it the right time :-)
2007-08-15 17:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first daughter Lucy always said she wanted a baby sister, but my husband and I thought she might appreciate it a bit more when she was older, since she was only 3 at the time. But she developed Leukemia and died within the year. So we decided to fulfill her wish even if she wouldn't be there to enjoy the new baby. But I have a multiple birth gene and I am now pregnant with 7 babies and ready to deliver. I was in a completely different situation than you are, but I think that if you want a new baby, and your daughter is 3 and a bit more independant, I would say that it's a good time for you.
2007-08-16 00:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by Nina H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I decided that we wouldn't try not to get pregnant after we got married (we already had a son) and sure enough, a few months after our wedding, I was definitely pregnant (from my non-existent honeymoon). We based our decision on the fact that we didn't want a massive gap between our kids. That and I wanted a girl- and I got one too! But now, our son is 3 and our daughter is 18 months and they are the best of friends! They're close enough in age that they play together very well. Also, after she was born, he did his best to be very helpful, even though he was still shy of his second birthday. I have two younger sisters... I'm 22, the next is 18, and the last is 12. So, I was 10 when my sister was born and it was AWFUL! That's why I wanted them closer together.
2007-08-16 01:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am pregnant with baby #2 right now, and this pregnancy was more for my daughter. I want her to have siblings, people to be there for her when I'm gone. Don't get me wrong, I did have the desire for another baby, but I knew what I was getting into this time, I didn't have the fantasy of what it would be like, like I had with my daughter.
2007-08-16 00:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're financially stable, and have the time and energy to put into a new baby, then go for it. If there are other things you want to do first, then wait.
2007-08-16 00:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by qwerty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋