I live in the USA and have been talking with an officer from the UK for the past two years. Intermittently, he has to go away for a few months at a time. He tells me that he has a special assignment that he cannot tell me about and that he cannot communicate with me until he is finished.
I'm sure he is an officer and I've seen his name written in the dept. newsletter online (researched it myself.) It even said he received a special award. I have seen him a few times in his uniform via webcam. And, he has given me his home address, which I have verified. He has been very forthcoming....so I've no reason to doubt him.
But, I can't help it. I've been played so often in this life. Can you please tell me.... Is it really possible that he is getting these special assignments and really can't contact me?
My instincts say he is legit....I just need to hear if from someone who knows. I haven't heard from him for 2 months, and I miss him so much!
2007-08-15 16:54:31 · 15 answers · asked by treefrog 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Oh dear, how naive you are.
OK so your so called boyfriend is a police officer, you are happy about that.
As I've said in your previous questions, I would doubt very much that he goes undercover at all. Its most probably an excuse not to communicate with you for a while. If he did undercover work he certainly would'nt be advertising the fact on the internet to someone he never met.
Why don't you just accept that this guy is making his life / work out to be more exciting than it actually is. He's living in a fantasy world and at the minute so are you.
Get out more and meet people face to face. Don't get suckered into fantasy relationships online.
Don't want to hurt your feelings but I just want to give you a reality check.
2007-08-15 21:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your being played. I do not know of any branch of the UK police that finds it necessary to be anywhere for more than a few days and even then, he would be contactable. Even training is conducted locally nowadays and the only area of the force involved in 'long term' undercover work is special branch and they would NEVER appear in any publication or departmental newsletter.
He may still be a policeman, but I suspect he may be glamorising his job to make it sound more exciting, in which case he is an idiot and a liar. Or he is using it as an excuse to be somewhere having a break from you. You can work out why for yourself.
2007-08-15 17:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ring of Uranus 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
this is on a need to know basis and if the truth came out i,m a dead man walking, HE,S MARRIED.
sorry to put it so bluntly but if any self respecting police officer in the uk had to go away for "special assignment" he would not be telling you he was even involved in that kind of work over the internet as they are taught about protocol in there training. so i,m really sorry but i think you have been played again,
message me if you want!!!!
2007-08-15 17:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by welshnproud 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what he does. I know several narcotic officers and detctives that go "underground" for a while (known to go up to years) doing some investigation that they cannot talk about. Most agencies have policies against officers talking about ongoing investigations to anyone who is not involved. You need to get over your insecurities if you want your relationship to work especially with an officer. Being an officer's significant other is extremely difficult. You need to be prepared for hardships and his investigations.
2007-08-15 17:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by plutarian04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible. However, it sounds like a unique situation.
I have met so many liars via the net, my gut says no. But I have no proof.
Follow your gut!
If he makes you feel good about you, I hope you two have an awesome future.
2007-08-15 17:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by Autumn S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How many times are you going to ask this question?
If he is deep undercover, then he is breaking serious rules (and putting himself at great risk) by telling you this on the internet.
Keep asking, maybe eventually someone will say whatever it is that you want to hear...
2007-08-15 17:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by Citicop 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i f you aren't comfortable with it and feel he is keeping something from you then you might want to ask yourself is it really worth it? You don't have any real proof of what he does, he hasn't introduced you to friends or colleagues or their wives? I would be careful and bow out I think
2007-08-15 17:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in London in April and the changing of the guard was not happening every day as it used to - only every second day because so many of the troops are away fighting in Afghanistan or wherever. So it's possible. Maybe he doesn't want to worry you.
2007-08-15 17:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by Shine! 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Like you say, 'You've been played so often in this life.' And it's still happening. Don't be taken in again.
2007-08-15 17:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by jimbob 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't comment from the 'business' side of things, but if you're paranoid - you're not right for him.
Men & women are both capable of lying through their teeth, and these experiences hurt us all.
2007-08-15 17:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋