My ex just finished boot camp and is stationed somewhere in Mississippi. I don't have any details on his status because he doesn't include me on any of this. We have a daughter (I have cared for solely since age 2). He hasn't seen her since several months prior to boot camp. He is ordered to pay child support, which he does and to carry insurance on her, which he never has.
Last week I got a letter from social services stating that I needed to enroll my daughter in DEERS in order to get her military insurance and ID cards. I called the number provided but basically got no answers. They're telling me that everything has to be done on his end. I'm fairly certain that he has her listed as a dependant (they say he gets paid more if he does that, even if the child's not in his custody). What I don't know is whether or not there is anything I can do to get her into DEERS. I seem to be getting so much contradictory info. I have no way to contact him. Please help...
2007-08-15 16:54:15 · 7 answers · asked by Jes 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Sean,
thanks for the info. but the whole part about sending pics is a bit harsh. Over the last several years I have made every effort to keep him in her life, inviting him to b-day parties, dance recitals, etc. It is HE that doesn't come around to see his daughter and it is HE that choses to not provide her or I with contact information. That is beyond my control. I simply cannot force him to see his daughter.
2007-08-16 13:28:41 · update #1
Hope I can help, JES. Your first task is to find out where your ex is stationed. You must talk to him and let him know that you need help getting HIS daughter an ID card so that she can get the Navy support that she (and you in some cases) are entitled to. He must initiate some of the action. Medical care is one of those entitlements. You might start by talking to a Navy recruiter in your area. He or she might be able to give you guidance or materials that would help you locate your ex and assist with your problem. If not, go to any Navy establishment near where you live, get a visitor's pass and go to Navy Admin or the chaplain's office and ask them to help. If none of those avenues gets you any results, contact one of your elected federal official's office for his or her help. Keep sort of a diary of what you do as you go including phone numbers, names of offices and personnel that you talk to and the times and dates of those duscussions. If the situation stretches in to a prolonged endeavor, the info you have collected will come in very handy. Let's hope that your ex will give you a call so you can get him started on his obligations. You might check with his parents to see if they have been contacted or if the Navy has told them where he was transferred to. Good luck.
2007-08-15 17:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Bee 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, first he is paying support. So that's good.
Second, he must place his child on Deers. There is a means for you to do this, however you would have to have a birth certificate showing he is the father first. Forcing him to place the child on Deers will require a degree of effort as so many others mentioned. Like knowing where he is.
Yes, if he accepts the child as his own, the process is smooth and easy. Contact him should help you to idenfity his priorities. It's sad, that you only seem to wish to contact him to ask him about something he can do. I mean, you could have tried to reach him earlier to send him some pics once in a while. Since he is sending support, you might want to identify where he is from these payments.
No Meridian is not the only base in Mississippi. Yes you can locate him.
You must identify yourself as calling on the behalf of a service members child/dependent. If you do not feel comfortable stating this, then you can make arrangements to pay a $3.50 fee for the service and mailing to the address provided on the call:
1-866-827-5672
Fax: (901) 874-2000
Fax DSN: 882-2000
You'll need to know his full name, age (birth date is helpful), and of course, the SSN is best (but not required). While you may think he's in Mississippi, he may only be assigned their and deployed elsewhere. You will only be given a command name and address from there you will have to search more.
2007-08-15 18:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he is getting paid more, then she is already in DEERS. as such, she already has TRICARE Standard.
That being said: with a court order, he is required to enroll her in DEERS and provide her with an ID since he does not have custody( children do not get an ID until the age of ten otherwise).
I'd lay odds he is in A school in Missipppi, Prolly NAS Meridian. since you have a court order, contact the base and ask who you need to speak with. They will require him to do all the necessary paperwork at his end and mail it to you, and you can go to any nearby installation to get her ID and enroll her into TRICARE Prime.
there is no cost for that, btw, but he will ALSO be required to enroll her into Dental, and there is a cost($11/month) for that
2007-08-16 03:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's Navy he is in a training school at Naval Air Station, Meridian, Mississippi. He has to make out an application for her ID to get her entered into DEERS. If there is an order for him to provide child support, that can be set up through an allotment where the amount is deducted from his pay and sent to you.
My advice is to go to a Navy recruiter in your home town. Th at individual should be able to find out which Navy training school he is attending at Meridian, the phone numbers for that school's commanding officer, etc.
2007-08-15 17:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by desertviking_00 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he doesnt get paid more if he doesnt have custody of her unless he lied about it, the only extra pay for having dependents is the increased dependent rate BAH which he doesnt qualify for if he doesnt have custody of her. he may be getting what they call BAQ differential...which your already getting your share of through his child support thats what that money is for. as far as enrolling her in DEERS your gonna have to find out where he is and contact his command.....or let the court know that it hasnt been done and let them deal with it.
2007-08-16 03:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by CRmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of while you're chuffed then that is all you are able to ask for. as quickly as you're married i understand a minimum of right here (canada) you get so a lot extra advantages (ie seperation pay of one individual is deployed) this additionally happens while you're effortless regulation (you may qualify the 2nd that infant is born, in case you do no longer already stay jointly for over a twelve months). i think of which you the two have sturdy stable 'recession evidence' careers that provide you and your infant of venture to work out the international. there are maximum of variables in existence, you in basic terms gotta circulate with the bypass. and do what makes you chuffed. existence does not final continuously.
2016-10-02 10:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by mcglothlen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out who his command is and get a hold of the ombundsmen (the dependant liason to his commanding officer) and let them know your intentions. They should be more than happy to help.
2007-08-15 17:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by Sea Horse 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋