He tells me that he loves everyday but goes back to his ex everyday and tells her the same thing then his friends are coming back and telling me that he says that to her and when i ask him he tells me he is doing it to get his bill payed off! What would you do?
2007-08-15 16:51:07 · 37 answers · asked by sarah b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah right!!! to get his bill payoff?? if it was bc of that then they would've still be together....
dump him, he's lying to u
2007-08-15 16:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by Delilah 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No way, don't fall for that stuff! If he really loves you, he would make you feel special! Because love in a relationship should be special! And him, going back to his ex everyday, telling her the same things he tells you, is NOT special at all! Hm.. his excuse is he tells his ex that so he can get his bills payed off... So pretty much he loves her because she pays his bills but doesn't love her for who she is. Think about it, what if he's doing the same thing to you to you? He's telling you he loves you just because there's another reason on the side why he tells you he loves you... Of course he probably wouldnt tell you, but again, would he tell his ex that he only tells her he loves her so she can pay his bill? If he can say that to anyone, who knows what other girls out there that he says the same things too other than just you......
I'd say he's not worth it hunny!!
2007-08-15 16:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am on the other end of this situation. And I'm sure there is another side to this story. Right now he is getting his cake and his ice cream. I told my man he can screw what he wants and have a good time as long as he loves me best and that he is still committed to us. Don't you want a guy that is capable of paying his own bills. My man has a "temp" right now because he is accross the country and she services him in ways I can't right now. I am sure he tells her he loves her and that kind of stuff but what really does that mean. She doesn't have the responsibility of taking care of him. I let him have fun with her and I still take care of the ugly day to day like paying bills, and taking care of children because I know in the long haul that warm fuzzy feeling doesn't mean anything. It's about being able to make it work. Basically I think if you think that is the whole truth you are sadly mistaken. But enjoy it while it lasts and make it worth your while. Take it for what it is worth. If I were you I would try and openly talk with him without getting mad. Be open and blunt put yourself in the position of being his best friend. Don't take it personnally and he may be able to let you know what's really going on with him. That's what I did. When I found out my man had a girl on the side I called her I let her know what was going on from my perspective without being a jerk. He and I talked about it. Of course I was hurt but I am not taking personnally or lashing out. It is something that we will have to work through in time but for now it is what it is. We don't talk about her she is irrelevant to us and as long as he keeps it that way were cool for now. It is all a matter of where you stand and what you are willing to put up with, what you believe, and how much you trust. Can you do this? Be honest with yourself.
Has anyone ever loved to people at the same time and not known how to be honest about it because it's not seen as normal? I don't know this guy but neither does anyone else responding here. If he is just using her and probably you at the same time if that is the case then yes he is a loser. What if he is confused and afraid to be honest? Does that make him a bad person? I think you need to get to the core of it. Even if it is just helping him. That's just me though.
2007-08-15 17:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by glismo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would leave him alone. If he is using his ex to "get his bill payed off", he will do the same to you if you let him. A guy like that, who is blunt and honest with his girlfriend about how he's using another woman is not good to begin with. He sounds like someone who is playing a game.
The funny thing is that you know something is wrong with that because you asked the question to yourself and to other people.
You know how you should handle this. Good luck, Hon.
2007-08-15 17:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess I don't understand how his telling his ex he loves her is paying off his bill. Does he owe her 30 I love yous a month or something? Find out what is going on. Perhaps if you go tell her every day that you love her your husbands bill will be paid off twice as fast.
2007-08-15 16:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by don n 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is using his ex? Are you sure he is not using you too? Why does he want his ex to get his bills paid off? Doesn't he have a job? Can't he pay his own bill? If I were you I would leave him. Remember, if he is really using his ex he might do the same to you. You are better off alone.
2007-08-15 16:57:20 · answer #6 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sara be a fool but not a Da*n fool. That man if he love you then he wouldnt need to lie to his ex and tell her he love her to get a bill paid come on now. He is a lier and he is no matter what he say he having sex with her still. Why would his friends tell you this? because they know he is full of it. Move on ok
2007-08-15 16:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by nina j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you believe that he loves "you", when he can say those words to just anyone?
So how do you know he loves you?
If he's telling her that he loves her, just to get what he wants from her, maybe he's doing the same thing with you?
Just remember:
What Goes Around, Comes Around
and look at the way he's treating his ex, what makes you think that he'll treat "you" any better?
2007-08-15 16:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Words mean nothing. Actions, everything.
Whatever he's telling you is just to keep you wrapped around his finger. Find someone who really does love you and tell him to get lost.
If it was a matter of money, he'd take her to court. And what bimbo would believe him anyway? Her ex has a new girlfriend, but still loves her? PLEASE!
Do yourself a big favor and get out before it's too late.
2007-08-15 16:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by Avillie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My first series of questions to you would be, "are you paying any of his bills, letting him stay with you all the time, does he enjoy you and your stuff without contributing?". If so, I would suggest you look in the mirror next time he says "he loves you" and try to distinguish yourself from his EX (as he calls it).
Sorry Hun, if he does it to her now, what does that tell you about his character?
2007-08-15 17:02:24 · answer #10 · answered by espritcaseskim 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you need to find a different guy!
It may not sound so pleasing, but if you let this keep up, you'll be suffering 10x more than you are right now.
You deserve better than this don't you?
Nip it in the bud.
Best of Luck!
2007-08-15 16:55:49 · answer #11 · answered by lovely_lady_lavender 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋