I have a co-worker with a habit of touching my arm whenever I say anything witty to her. Is this a sign of attraction? Or am I getting my hopes up for nothing?
2007-08-15 15:55:44 · 19 answers · asked by posttk421 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
watch her with other people to see how she interacts with them, she could just be a touchy feely kinda gal. who knows, but i agree that office romances are bad bad bad......although yours could be better then my experiece was!!! good luck
2007-08-15 16:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by sumgirlIN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person. Some people use touch as a way of keeping a person's attention when talking to them. But, it could also mean she's interested in you. This is one instance that I agree could go either way. Do pay attention to how she interacts with others and see if the arm touching is a unique response to you or if she is like that with everyone.
I can also agree to what has been mentioned here: it could be awkward to have a relationship in the workplace. If things go wrong, you would still have to face the person and deal with them on a daily basis.
2007-08-16 06:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by starwars79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously feels safe with you and attracted to you somehow.. but as a friend or as something else? What do you do when she touches you? Next time how about saying something - "smooth hands!" or "Oh, I like the feel of your touch" and see what she does. Or, let your gaze linger a bit on her after she does it, with just a hint of a smile, and let her say the next witty thing... I think she likes you, but with coworkers you gotta be careful b/c of sexual harassment and because it could get really awkward at the workplace.
Good luck!
2007-08-15 23:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by TeacherinJapan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do that sometimes to some of my co-workers. Oh my goodness, I hope I am not giving out wrong signal to my co-workers. I do it just to make them feel comfortable around me and I am just trying to be nice to them. In your case, it can go both ways. She is either being nice to you or she likes you. Watch her conversing with other people. Does she do that to them too? Good luck!
2007-08-15 23:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That could go either way. A lot of people are touchy-feely when they communicate. It doesn't necessarily mean it is a sign of attraction. But it might be. I don't know. Sorry, I'm going to have to say you need more signals.
2007-08-15 23:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me see...
it could be that she thinks you are humorous and funny and she just wants to show she appreciates your inthusiasm.
she could do it because she feels super comfortable around
you and about you.
she may do it as a sign of friendliness.
she may do it because it is a nice thing to do.
she may do it because she may indeed like you on the sly. ~but you'd have to venture into doing a little more so to say to test her intent.
being attracted to you? if so, she would talk with you alot, smile alot, ask for your opinion on things and maybe think you are cute.
find out if she is single or married. then maybe you can get a better idea of her intent.
do you happen to like her? does she make you feel comfortable in your own skin? would she be someone you venture into a relationship with?
if you like her, why don't you ask her out for coffee, in the morning. or better yet ask how she likes her coffee if she drinks it, and go out of your way and bring her a cup. if she oesn't like coffee, ask and suggest, is there something you could get her. maybe some water, a stapler, a paper clip some paper. if you are interested you don't have to dive into the i like you lets go out. feel her out a bit. she what she likes and how she acts at work that will lead you to a better understanding of what interests her about you. dont know if it a romantic or casual advance, but she does seem to show interest in you. maybe major, maybe vaguely. but you need to observe her more day after day, and you will get better insight on the situation as a whole. you say you get your hopes up, huh? so this tells me ~ you are into her. you dont have to verbally tell her, show her. show her with your kindness. if her interests and intentions are true towards you, she will let you know. just dont expect her to broadcast how she may feel right away. rome wasn't built in a day, my friend..... good luck =)
2007-08-15 23:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by foxxy*red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd take it as a sign. I don't touch people I don't like. Does she go out of her way to do it? Does she make it a point to smile at you or talk to you every chance she can? Ask her to lunch sometime and if she accepts without hesitation, you are in.
2007-08-15 23:01:53 · answer #7 · answered by susann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she touches other people, then it's just that...a habit. But if it's only you, then I'd say she likes you, or has a special interest of some sort.
2007-08-15 23:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by halee8202 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the girl sorry I know its not much help. But if she is like this with everyone then you are getting your hopes up. You have to see how she is with others. I have a friend who is like this no matter who she talks to and people are always thinking she is flirting with them even if she isn't cause she is just friendly like this.
2007-08-15 23:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by snail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this depends, does she flirt with you does she touch others people arms does she go out of her way to chat with you unless you already her friend she might just have a habit of doing this of she might just be a very flirty person i think you're going to have to use your better judgement
2007-08-15 23:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be.I do that too to guys. Look for other signs like eye contact and blushing and holding of her both hands tightly and swaying
Good Luck
2007-08-15 23:07:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋