There's this guy....
I'm kinda attracted to him, a little, but i don't really want anything beyond friendship....He seems like he likes me as more than a friend....
I don't know what to do. I like him as a person but I feel bad because he always likes to do nice stuff for me and I feel like I'm taking advantage of him even though I'm not....It's not my fault that I don't really want a relationship with him....
and the big problem is, i kinda like his best friend, so there's no way i would date this guy even casually.
How do I act around him so he sees I just want to be friends?
2007-08-15 15:44:18 · 13 answers · asked by kate 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this hasn't really been going on long enough that i would feel ok with just asking him about it....so i need to know:
WHAT DO GIRLS DO THAT LEAD GUYS ON?
and how shouldn't they act around a guy that's just a friend? (besides the obvious of course)
2007-08-15 15:57:20 · update #1
From what you describe, if you tell him that you want to be "just friends," that'd be a deal-killer for bhim. Best to break it off now rather than prolong the agony.
2007-08-15 15:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by Theodore H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Classic another "friend" "nice guy" bores a chick story and offers no "chemistry". You probably need more of a jerk type, the kind that will control you and cheat on you, However in any case there is not much you can do about how you feel - as chicks follow their DNA which directs them toward seed spreading males - who dominated the earth for 3 to 5 million years
Too late the damage is probably already done, the nice guy will soon understand.
2007-08-15 22:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by JET99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and I would want you to be straight with me - yeah it may hurt, but I'll more than likely keep you as my friend in hopes that something might develop later down the road. My best friend may turn out to be a butt head to you and you may turn to me for a shoulder to cry on or maybe something more.
Bottom line - tell your friend what you want from him.
2007-08-15 22:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by Eric T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him & tell him the truth. Dont never mislead anyone. Treat him like you want to be treated. Life is to short to play games with people emotions. Never lead a person to believe somethings that's not.
2007-08-15 22:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lucky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would know the answer to this, ive had 2 girls do this to me, and they did it perfectly that it didnt hurt my feelings.. the only bad part is that if they start talking to me again im retarded mind thinks "Oh maybe she likes me now" Er! anyhow just dont laugh at anything he does , kinda ignore him, but dont be mean to him. acknowlege him still though.
2007-08-15 22:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by broken_paladin15 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is ur actions that's giving him the thought there is a chance.
Be mature, let him know exactly what's going on, that's if u really what 2 do that.
2007-08-15 22:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by drillsgt77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people tend to think u lead someone on by what may seem like flirting and always wanting to hang out, just...sometimes stop and think if u might be acting like ur leading him on
2007-08-15 23:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by randomwrds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him dat u think of him as just ur best friend n dat derz diz othr guy dat u have in mind n i'm just waiting till he makes a move... my friend dat i liked dat didn't like me like only like a best friend told me dat n i wuz like oh but since she sorta led me on even though she didn't mean 2 i gave it another chance.. n so far we've been really good friends.. i wanna go out wit her just once 2 see wut it feels like cuz truthfully i've nevr had a date b4.. so yea.. i'm glad 2 be of assistance hope things go welll wit u feel free 2 e-mail me..
2007-08-15 22:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by Fredrick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we can't tell you if you're leading him on but as someone who has been led on a few times I can tell you it's better to let him know how you feel soon
2007-08-15 22:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by Billy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By being honest
2007-08-15 22:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by icraftyone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋