Did this happen to anyone else? Any suggestions on how to stop crying so much? I think I cry b/c my family is gone im not sure. Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-15 14:42:05 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not used to your new surroundings, and I'm guessing it's your first time living on your own. Remember that most of the other freshmen are just as nervous, and everyone is looking to make friends and find things to do. Go for walks around campus and get to know the place. Start looking for activities and organizations, and get your room decked out so it's really yours. Over the next month, it will start to feel like home.
2007-08-15 14:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by highball116 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, that sucks hon! College is a hard adjustment for a lot of people. I'm an RA at my school (i had freshmen last year), and I had a couple girls that sound like you. Why are you crying? Are you homesick? Did you leave a serious boyfriend? Is your roommate evil? Do you not know anyone? All of those things can make an impact, but things WILL get better. You'll get to know more people, get used to being away from home and away from your family.
What I suggest is to get involved. Ask your roommate or someone from one of your classes to go do something (even if it's just take a walk around campus, go get something to eat, etc)... join a club or something like that, and don't just stay in your room and cry. Go seek the other people on your hall and see if they want to do something. Also, if your campus has greek life, consider going through recruitment. It'll give you something to do and tons of people to meet.
Good luck, and I hope everything gets better!!!!!
2007-08-15 14:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, crying every night is not normal. I didn't cry once when I was in my dorms and my family was 4 hours away.
You need to think of this change in your life as a positive and new start. You can be whomever you want in college. Enjoy your new "freedom" and take advantage. Get out your dorm room and meet other girls on your floor and in your building. See what clubs you can join and the cool places to hang out on campus. Once class starts things will be even easier. If it is a matter of sleeping in a new place, do something to your room that reminds you of home. Put pictures up and decorate, it will also be a conversation piece when people come to your room.It will get better, but you have to make that change for yourself. I hope you do enjoy your freshman year!
2007-08-15 14:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by mahdiya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It didn't happen to me, but I was definitely homesick and it sounds like that is what is happening to you.
Going away to college is hard for a lot of people. Not only have you left your family, but you have taken on a whole new set of responsibilities and entered into a new phase in your life. When you think about it, it's a lot to handle all at once!
The good news is, things will get better, just give it time. I got over it by keeping BUSY. Eventually I was so into my new life that I forgot to be homesick :)
If you find that you can't seem to adjust to your college life, go to the student health center and speak to a counselor. It's generally free for students at most colleges. It might help to just be able to talk to someone about how you're feeling.
I hope you feel better soon!
2007-08-15 14:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by T the D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called: home sickness. Yes, it's
perfectly normal. For some it is more
or less severe/extreme than for others.
This is the pivotal point in your life where you've just realized that you are now an adult. You are now out of the nest. And now you're going to have to learn how to spread your own wings and fly. You're going to have to go diving for your own worms.
This is all foreign to you and it's going to take time to adjust.
Meanwhile; it would benefit you to familiarize yourself with your new surroundings by making friends, and finding some activities to participate in
which you enjoy doing just as you did
when you were back at home.
The more you keep yourself and your mind occupied the less home sick you
should become.
And try not to call home too much as this will only serve to make matters worse; for you would merely hear about all of the good times you're missing out on and want to be there even more.
Remember why you're away at college;
to fashion a better quality of life and to
land your dream career. Good luck.
2007-08-15 15:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by sylvester m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's exactly why your crying. If you are close to home try going back when school work allows to visit, call, start spending time with others and this homesick feeling will pass. You will miss them but not so much that you are crying everynight. What ever you do though don't give up because this will pass and I am sure your parents miss you too but they want you to stay and succeed and in the long run it will make you stronger as you grow.
2007-08-15 14:52:06 · answer #6 · answered by julia b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our daughter was very homesick her first weeks at college. She wanted to come home. Fortunately, I had taken a seminar at her college, one of the topics was homesickness. It is a VERY common problem with new freshmen. That counselor said parents should say something like, "I know you are not happy there, but we really have too much money invested in you going there for this semester. So we need you to stay. When you come home for Thanksgiving, we will fill out applications for wherever you want to go. Most times, by Thanksgiving, you couldn't pull your student out of here if you wanted." He was right. That same counselor told her to meet the girls on her floor, join a club for some activity that she enjoys, hang out in the student union to meet other students and guys. Be in her room as little as possible. He was right again. within a week, she has happier. Still a little homesick, but was getting involved. And after another week she was enjoying campus life.
2007-08-15 15:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to miss those you love, and care about. You probably miss the familiar surroundings, your room, the normal routine, etc....maybe your RA can offer some advice, try the school counselor, or better yet, if you can, try going for walks to blow some of this off, it might make you feel better, and you might make some new friends along the way. Remember, their are all kinds of kids going through the same thing, and yes you will overcome it in time...you are growing, and maturing, when you go home next time, they will see how much you have grown. It will get better.
2007-08-15 14:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your homesick. I think you will get over this in time. You will soon find some new friends and your classes will keep you busy. I know your family is important but you can always call just remember that this is a new experience in life and we all need to take chances and try new things to grow. Good luck.
2007-08-15 14:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by Darkchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. Being away from family and friends is always hard to do. Just give it some time, get comfortable with your school and your schedule and things will come around. It will just take a little getting used to, but in due time it will happen. Hope all goes well at school.
2007-08-15 14:46:36 · answer #10 · answered by Ruth K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋