So my older sisters best guy friend broke up w/ his girl friend and then started to ask me on a date and to hang out w/ him. My sister found out and told him that she didn't want him to hangout w/ me unless she was there.She is really protective and possesive of her friends so this doesn't surprise me. So he told me that she said this, but still is asking me to hangout w/ him. So should I hang out w/ him without my sister there or should I just not tell her about it? I'm at a lose!
2007-08-15 14:10:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends on the age difference, if you are alot younger then the relationship may actually be illegal, are you doing it just to piss your sister off, is he doing it cause he is trying to make your sis jealous? She may just be trying to protect you. Anyway if they ages are OK and you really like him and you think he really likes you then you could try dating him but bear in mind that should things go wrong with you and him that it may wreck your sisters friendship with him or you as she will more than likely be forced to decide who she is loyal to.
2007-08-15 14:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever consider the fact that your sister might have a thing for her friend? Maybe you should talk to your sister to see where her feelings lie, or would you rather ruin your relationship with your sister? what if you don't last with this guy, then you will not want her to hang with her best friend anymore because it will hurt your feelings? i think you should think hard about this before you sever your relationship with your sister.
2007-08-15 14:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want, make yourself a priority. If I were you I would tell her that you're sorry she doesn't approve but you like spending time with him and whether she likes it or not you guys are going on a date. Don't lie to her, she'll find out about it anyway, and besides you aren't doing anything wrong, so why hide it? The sooner you stand up to her about it the sooner she'll realize that this guy means something to you and she should back off and respect your right to make decisions about who you date on your own. But don't lose out on a guy you like just to make someone else happy or to avoid conflict. In the end, she'll get over it.
2007-08-15 14:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by laura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't lose anything by NOT being chummy with this GUY friend. Stay clear and find your OWN friends for goodness sake and save the hassles of getting into lame fights with your sister. Life should be simpler, kiddo. Mess not, meddle not.
2007-08-15 14:16:21 · answer #4 · answered by joulsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you hang out with your sister's husband if he was married? Don't think so. Would you want your sister to hang out with your husband if you were married? Don't think so.
So hell no, find your own guy. Have some respect and keep the trust of your sister.
2007-08-15 14:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by Bambi C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang out on your sister's terms. What may be controlling is really being cautious and concerned. I would be better for you and your sister to be friends than fight about this situation later on, it will only complicate things if you hang out with him. Ask her why.
2007-08-15 14:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by guineapig48 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your sister's best guy friend and she would know him pretty well so she's just protecting you from him because she knows his ways. Listen to your sister, she wouldn't be doing this if it wasn't in the kindness of her heart.
2007-08-15 14:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by Evident 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect your sisters wishes and do not hang out with him. Find someone else to hang with
2007-08-15 14:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by mahalga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe your sister is looking out for your best interest. There is a reason she's not wanting you to go w/him. There must be something she knows about him that you don't. I think you should be glad your sister really cares about you & there's a reason she's doing what she's doing for your sake. Please don't do anything w/o her knowing about it. Trust her & be glad your sister cares about you.
2007-08-15 14:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang around with him if you like him Y who care your sister isn't gana pick your husband... If you like the guy and he like's you, you should get to know him... If not you should tell him you don't wana hang around b-cuz of your sister!!!
2007-08-15 14:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋