My boyfriend and i have been together in an on and off again relationship for a couple of years. i always noticed he wore foundation makeup on his face but i didnt want to embaress him so i never brought it up. ive noticed over the past 6 months he disapears in the bathroom and comes out hours later. in the bathroom i find blood on the mirrors and sometimes in the toilet. i know he uses needles and other tools to cut his face. recently its become more and more often and the cuts look really bad (even though he covers up with generous amounts of makeup). i never really thought about it as being a problem but since its getting worse i think it might be esp since he goes out of his way to hide it from me. he is middle-aged and it seems to be a recent development. why is he doing this? how do i approach him about it?
2007-08-15 14:04:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I sounds like it could be Borderline Personality Disorder.
2007-08-15 14:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get him some help. This is not normal.
I would start by saying you're worried about him because of the cuts on his face. It's a serious symptom of something wrong, and you want to help him figure out what it is. Since it's a recent development, you might want to try to remember if there was any upheaval in his life that could have triggered his disordered thinking (someone close to him dying, being passed over for promotion, turning 50, watching his hair turn gray and/or disappear, discovering other signs of aging, etc.). And you can say, "I know you've been upset since X, but cutting your face is not the way to handle it. Let me help you."
Good luck.
2007-08-15 22:11:08 · answer #2 · answered by VeggieTart -- Let's Go Caps! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are describing a very serious problem. You need to get away from this man. I am sorry, but that sort of behavior is often related to other behaviors that could endanger him, you, and others.
He needs serious professional help, and it is very unlikely that you will be able to help him any time soon. You should break off any kind of romantic/sexual relationship you have with him at once. Get together with the best support people you have, and contract with them to help you get through it. This is important. You are in a potentially dangerous situation, and your friends and family should help you.
From a distance, you may ask this man if he is aware that he has a problem and needs help. Don't trust anything he says or does at that point. If he wants to get well, he will need some serious psychotherapy, and probably needs to be hospitalized for a while. I'm sorry, I mean in the mental facility of his doctors' choice. He has a bad problem.
Then you should keep in touch with his doctors and follow their advice as to what, if any, contact to have with him in the future. Those are the wise things to do. Nobody cuts himself unless there is something really bad wrong with him. Get out, now. Like, tonight.
2007-08-15 21:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by aviophage 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Puleeeze!!!.Just tell him you are concerned by his self infliction of cuts. It is a serious aberration of behavior, and is based in strong feelings of lack of self worth. He need professional help. You don't have to be in an emotional relationship with him to try to guide him to therapy.
2007-08-15 21:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him to church with you to have a free counselling with a pastor. Both of you need to connected with God for a secure, peaceful and meaningful life. God loves you, and you are precious to Him. Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation. Just come to Jesus with genuine repentance and faith, and you will have a wonderful life. Heaven will be your eternal home when you die. Never miss Heaven for anything of this troubled world.
2007-08-15 22:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by tmthyh 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
it's called self-injury google it to find out info he probably won't be able to just stop it's addicting
2007-08-15 21:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some day, when you both are walking together like in the mall, point out a guy whose face is smooth and say "Oh look at that guys face, it is so clean!"
maybe he will think that you like guys with smooth faces.
good luck
2007-08-15 21:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by lolosweet11 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋
talk to someone on those emo helplines.
2007-08-15 21:53:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Maybe he just really sucks at shaving...
2007-08-15 21:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jamaican QT™ 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋