OK, my sister is hosting a baby shower for me. She is very busy and seems stressed about it and it seems like she is really just throwing it together. I am hormonal with this pregnancy so I may be getting upset over nothing.
But she has thrown together an email and sent it out in leiu of invites. Even some of the email addresses were wrong she used.
Personally, I wouldn't consider emailing invites and would mail them for any shower I was throwing for someone.
If I bring this up to her she will get testy and upset with me, but this is really bothering me. Can I ask to have them mailed?
2007-08-15 13:22:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thanks to everyone who responded.
Well, I mentioned to it to her nicely and considerately. I said that not everyone has email and that I would like to help make the invites. But if she wanted to send them out by email I could provide her with the correct email addresses. I really couldn't let it go, the address of the location/map was even missing from the email. I mentioned to another family member who was helping out aswell to get their opinion. Both who obviously disagree with me. The whole thing blew up and I look like the ungrateful one. C'est La Vie.
2007-08-16 02:55:39 · update #1
It sounds lazy, tacky, and as though you are trolling for gifts. Even though it's not YOU doing the inviting, people are going to associate the shower with YOU.
You can either duke it out with your sister, or just mail the invitations yourself and let it go (which is what I would do, since you're the one going to be raking in the gifts).
And just so you don't have to ask this question a few days after the shower, I'll just tell you right now that it is NOT ok to email the thank you's. Handwrite and mail each and every one within 2 weeks of the shower. Yeah, I know you're busy. So are all of the people who took time out of their schedule to attend your shower, and shelled out money for a gift for your baby.
2007-08-15 13:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by fartmongers 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it is a little tacky, unless she used eVite and spent a lot of time designing the invitation. Because eVite replicates the format of a handmailed invitation and provides guests with all necessary info, I feel like it's comparable. But it sounds like she didn't use eVite. In fact, it sounds like your sister isn't really giving this party all the time and attention it requires and that is upsetting you. There may be issues that go far beyond this party and it may be hard for you to casually confront her at this point. Maybe you (or a mutual friend) could approach her very gently and say, "You know, I know you're really stressed lately and planning this party isn't helping. So-and-so has offered to take care of the remaining details." Then work with a girlfriend to tie up the loose ends and try to do a nice job. When she comes to the party and she sees what a great job you did and sees that you did it without getting angry at her, maybe she'll regret not making you and your shower a priority. It's a long shot but even if it doesn't work, at least you'll be focusing on making sure that you and your guests have a good time instead of being angry at her. Good luck!
2007-08-15 20:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by koi-ness 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
More and more people are using email now. I think it will be OK. I don't blame you for being upset since it seems like she is throwing it together. Tell her that some of your guests don't frequently check their email. Ask if some can be mailed. Also, offer to give her the correct emails for the ones she has wrong. Tell her that you don't want to risk offending anyone by not getting an invitation to them.
If your sister is that busy, she probably should have let someone else host the shower for you, but what's done is done.
2007-08-15 20:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is very tacky - she should not have done that. Besides, some people do not have e-mail - what about them? I don't think that YOU should say something to her for she may feel you are ungrateful. Do you have someone else like an aunt or cousin who could say something to her to set her straight?
2007-08-15 20:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by mschrissy0 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt ask
id demand
email invites are in my opinion tacky as all get out and if shes that cheap as to not want to mail said invites the party shed planned will probably be just as tacky as her email invites
2007-08-16 00:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by luckyduck2006 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age, e-invites should be fine. She just should use snail mail for people who don't have e-mail or whose addresses didn't work.
Mail them yourself if you want them all mailed. It is a waste of money.
2007-08-15 20:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle G 5 · 0⤊ 6⤋
Sure, if you are sure that those people check their emails on a regular basis.
2007-08-15 20:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by Kenneth 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
go to evite and they have or go th 123 greetings they are free e-cards and they have baby shower invations
2007-08-15 21:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by ♥tinkerbell♥ 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋