He's married, happilly I think.....and well he's my boss.
2007-08-15 13:02:26 · 18 answers · asked by tee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DeeDee this is actually pretty common to have an infatuation for people in authority over you. Just be careful not to act on it as if anything happened and his wife was to find it I'm betting it wouldn't be pretty. As well you would probably find yourself unemployed, even if she didn't find out and he just tired of you. Look and dream but do not give in to the temptation.
2007-08-15 13:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You either need to find someone else to lavish your affections on, or find a different boss/different job. There are so few affairs with married people that ever turn out happily. There is an even bigger problem having any kind of relationship with your boss. He would be the one to get into big trouble (like getting fired) if he ever reciprocated your affections.
Be honest with yourself. If that doesn't work, go see a counselor or get advice from a good friend.
2007-08-15 20:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by madmax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone who's not married cause chances are he has children too and I really don't think you'd want to break up a seemingly happy marriage on account of a few selfish desires, so accept the situation for what it is and move on. Imagine if you were married, would you want some outsider ruining your relationship?
2007-08-15 20:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is always a tough situation to find yourself in. There is only one right thing to do. You have to confront him. Do it while you are not working, and just tell him the truth. If you are infatuated with a married man, there is nothing wrong with that. But, if you are willing and wanting to break up that marriage, thats when there is a problem. So, if I were you, just walk up to him, and tell him how you feel, and make sure he understands that you respect his marriage and that you are still able to work there without any further distractions. If he is married, and loyal to his wife like he should be, then you must understand that this just would and could never work.
2007-08-15 20:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by tigerslam 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
- he's a married man, may b happily married.
- getting involved with him might break his family
- he's ur boss, so ur feelings will interfere with ur work
- if he says no to u, u will not feel comfortable working under the same roof
- he's way older than u
- he might have slept with many b4 u, u wouldnt want to b another gal in a long list
These r good reasons to stay the hell away from him.
2007-08-15 20:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by ?beauty? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you are so attracted to your boss is the context of the relationship. It is not so much that he is so terribly handsome, but the relationship is very magnetic...boss/secretary, etc.
The way to get over it is to find some other contextual relationship. It is the context of the relationship that is exciting.
These contextual relationships are sometimes called power relationships. Teacher and student, pilot and stewardess, boss and secretary, etc.
2007-08-15 20:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for one he is married, happily or not he is married. And think about it, if didn't work out. You would have an ex for a boss. Dating people from work is never a good idea, depends on how much you like you job I guess.
2007-08-15 20:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by Injun 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get another job with a female boss
2007-08-15 20:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by MarkyMarkC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should consider getting a new job. Whether his marriage is happy or not is not at all the point here- he is MARRIED and he is your BOSS.
Go out with some friends and find yourself a man who is available to fall in love with you, and treat you right.
2007-08-15 20:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need A reality check.......I think the first answer may have given you one! Find someone who's not married. Committing adultery will only leave both people damaged.
2007-08-15 20:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by Mia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋