My fiance is an executive recruiter. We have a beautiful 5 month old son together. The other day we heard an advertisement on the raido about a singles event for professionals with a busy life. He said he wanted to go to "network"... and that in his job, it's all about how many people you know. I told him I didn't want him to go (ESPECIALLY without me), and gave him every logical reason why he shouldn't. It's been a month or so since the discussion, and he tells me the other day that he went anyway... and doesn't care what I think. What do you guys have to say about it??
2007-08-15 12:51:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
break up with him. he didn't marry you before you got pregnant, he didn't marry you after you got pregnant, he hasn't married you since the baby was born, and now he's looking to date other women. Duh.
2007-08-15 12:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sooo sorry to hear about what happened.He has no business going to a singles' event and he knows it.The fact that he broke your prior agreement makes it even worse.I hate to say it but is it possible he's trying to see how constrained he will be in the future marriage?If you're still with him he's learning that he won't be constrained so that may have alleviated some of his wedding jitters.I can't say that I wouldn't stay with him also though...such a tough call. I imagine it's especially difficult since you two have a child together.If you decide to stay with him you'd benefit by working with a good couple's therapist.You said you gave him every logical reason why he shouldn't go.How's, "No," for a reason?Why should you be explaining yourself as to why he shouldn't go as if ur the 1 being irrational?...As 4 his money excuse.There are TONS of groups meeting every day so why the singles?Does he go to churches or activity clubs with that much of a vengeance to get recruits?No one knows exactly what u 2 have though so if u feel u can re-establish trust and he's willing to work on himself maybe that's another option.Good Luck. Everthing will b fine.
2007-08-15 15:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by ... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kedobe I think that it was very selfish and thoughtless of your fiance to have done this after you discussing with him your concerns. Regardless of whether he says it was a business trip or event is not important and has little to do with it. Sounds to me like he is just showing you how things will be after you walk down the aisle and that he will do as he pleases. Best of luck in the future with this man, if you indeed decide to continue your relationship with him.
2007-08-15 12:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh...I wouldn't be happy. Not only did he go to an event specifically designed for singles to meet people for potential relationships but he LIED to you about it! He obviously doesn't have a problem deceiving you and he doesn't respect your feelings either.
2007-08-15 12:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you have a baby with such a loser. I'd leave him; it wasn't the first time he went behind your back to do something naughty and it won't be the last.
2007-08-15 12:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him...He doesn't respect your wishes and it sounds as though he wants to be single.
2007-08-15 12:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhh i think he wus curious i dont think he actually did any thing but i think he was checkin things out...which is actually normal when a guy realizes hes in a comitted relationship
2007-08-15 13:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he need to go if he has you? he Is marring you there is no good reason for him to go. you need to tell him how you feel and how it hurt you.
2007-08-15 13:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋