My cousin claims that she cannot work b/c she suffers from too many mental disorders. She says that she would love a job and to have normal interactions with the "real world" and have a paycheck but believes this is impossible. She is almost 30, has never been able to keep a job, is on meds and in weekly threapy. What job should I encourage her to seek, as her therapist said starting her own cleaning business would be a nice choice but she was not to thrilled with that idea. I am happy that she finnally thinks she might be able to hold down something more long term but I have no clue what to suggest. Ideas?
2007-08-15 12:01:58 · 10 answers · asked by shortdaylongnight 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I had a mental disorder when I was young and I learned to get along with people by delivering papers. You can work alone and nobody needs to help out, but you can learn to get along with people one person at a time. You can eventually learn to get along with everybody. That is how I got as smart as I am now. Of course I had a 186 IQ in High School.
2007-08-15 16:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, if you even suspect this is true, make the quickest and safest exit you possibly can from this situation. But sadly for many, if they had the capacity to follow that, they would have never gotten into the situation to begin with. But from a purely academic perspective, there are a few indicators which serve well as warnings. 1. Pathological lying. The inability to differentiate between reality and a fixated desire. 2. A complete inability to be empathic of the needs and emotions of others. 3. A persistent belligerent and abusive assault on any who disagree with them. 4. A predefined description of another's existence from which departure is not allowed. There are more, but these are enough for any sensible person to act upon. But as I said above, if a person ignored (denied) the signals of behavior when entering the relationship, chances are small they will overcome that denial and free themselves from it. I've already had one close friend murdered by her child's father, being fully aware of the violence that person was capable of, and had clearly demonstrated. Now, I realize there is nothing that anyone can do for another to enlighten them. A person is either committed to truthfulness, or they're not. If you're not committed to truthfulness, you won't require it from those around you either. More often than not, we are deceived because we choose to be. The unrealistic belief in another's ability to change, is the primary reason why you choose to get into the relationship to begin with. That is the first step of denial, and typically fatal. Shingoshi Dao 2007.Nov.12 Mon, 14:58 --800 (PST)
2016-04-01 13:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest she try some aptitude testing, or even just think of activities she enjoyed or enjoys.
Then start with some volunteer work, where she can set her own schedule, and see how that works out.
Pushing someone into a job they don't want to do, or feel unable to do can set them up to fail, another downer.
If she isn't asking for your advice, I wouldn't offer it.
On the other hand, if she is complaining, I would ask her what she needs from you at this time, and let her know that you have confidence in her to find the right path.
Hope this helps,
Karen
2007-08-15 12:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by comfortyourheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure my sister suffers from everything your cousin does to almost a T. I'm not far behind sad to say but my sister works part time as a stocker for HyVee and seems to like it mostly. Maybe she could try something like that. She wouldn't really have to deal with customers. I myself am trying to find another job at the moment and haven't a clue what I would like to do. So i'm more depressed but also relieved to get out of a situation. Just be easy on your cousin. It's not easy and no one wants to be thought of as a lazy bum. If she could change how she was she probably would.
2007-08-15 12:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by iceyblue1986 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest a low-stress job. With her diagnoses, the last thing she needs is to have added stress.
Perhaps stocking as the one person said, or working as a clerk, or dishwasher, or even working in a factory or mail-room somewhere.
Something that she isn't dealing with a lot of people. People are going to be a big stressor for her. Best to (as cliche as it sounds) take "baby steps".
2007-08-15 12:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by Totem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who supports her? If she is unable to support herself, the person who does, is the one to do the encouraging/limiting of the support they give. Or, get her into the social welfare division that gives supportive employment for all "handicapped" people!!!! If she has to work to the best ability, she will. Get professionals in to evaluate her abilty. Family members are too emotionally involved to do the job!!!
2007-08-15 13:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could try help in a public library.
She could clean houses as a maid.
Im really kinda crazy, too...so im going to school and im gonna get a bachelors and masters in library science so i can be a librarian.
2007-08-15 16:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by amblahblur00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are truly hopeless.. does it matter what does? As long as she gets a job thats a big step
2007-08-15 12:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by Dave 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like she's just a lazy old git.
2007-08-15 12:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
dunno
2007-08-15 12:09:16 · answer #10 · answered by stickman 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋