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okay so me and my husbabnd have been taking care of his 8 yr old brother for the summer and i have noticed some really strange behavior as well as my husband has. he is infactuated with the devil has made comments about physical abuse and even drew a picture of himself committing suicide and the devil carrying him off to hell...this really scares me...he also is very angry and seems to lash out at other people...my husband and i are really concerned and decided that in about a year after he finishes college and we get a bigger place we were going to try and get the kid to testify and get custody but i am starting to think that a year is to long to wait and i know a foster home wouldnt be the greatest for him either...what do i do?
we kinda know that most of this is comming from his home life...he lives in minnesota and we are in california his mom is in jail his dad is abisive and in and out of jail as well i dont understand why anyone hasnt picked up on this but we dont have the means to provide for him yet

2007-08-15 10:56:38 · 9 answers · asked by LisaMay 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting Parenting

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Apply for custody. The state can provide you with some funds to help with his expenses, as well as provide therapy. You have had the room for him for the summer so just keep your current situation. You and your husband can provide a more stable home for him where you are living than having to go back to his parent's home. Don't let this child become a victim of the state. All they do is keep sending the children back to the parents.

2007-08-15 11:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3 0

This little boy needs help immediately. He needs counseling and a safe place to live. If you are taking care of him for the summer then why can't you take care of him for good? You can get clothes from Goodwill or garage sales. He's not going to take up much extra electricity or water. The state should give you a stipend for caring for him in lieu of putting him in foster care. Even if you decide you cannot take care of him, is there another loving relative that will help this child? Please get him some help right away and help him deal with anything he has been through.

2007-08-15 12:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

By "means" do you mean space, money or both? Better the child eat mac & cheeze and sleep on a cot then be in an abusive and suicidal enviornment. Failing that, get a little bit of help from everyone in the family until your husband finishes school.

2007-08-15 11:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Have you contacted social services? My cousin's wife's' cousin had 2 babies that have fetal alcohol syndrome and came from abusive home they went to humane services got custody at first it was more of a foster situation they were on state insurance and they got so much money for each child for fostering them. When they were more financially set they adopted the 2 boys.

2007-08-15 11:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

You can get state aid to help provide for him. I know it isn't the greatest way to go about it, but the fact is, the longer he is in that environment, the harder it will be to help him. And do you want your future children exposed to this and possibly put at risk? If you are serious about helping this little boy, do it soon.

2007-08-15 11:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by justme 4 · 0 0

It really sounds like you have your heart in the right place...this little boy needs rescuing. Is there any way you cut back on your expenses so you would be able to keep him. Knowing what you know now.....how could you send him back. The two of you could be a positive influence in his life.

2007-08-15 11:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by seashell 6 · 0 0

Contact social services and let them know what you know. ALSO let them know that you would be willing to take him in. Social services will have him tested and will check out his environment. If he needs to be removed, they will most likely place him with you or another family member that is more stable. Hurry.

2007-08-15 11:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

do something about it know! the situation would get worse if you wait on it. since he is just a child, you two would have to help him the best you can.

2007-08-15 11:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

get him to counseling. If you can't afford it, check with social services, ask a local counseling service for help, anything.

2007-08-15 11:07:03 · answer #9 · answered by randy 7 · 2 0

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