I'm so tired in the morning and sometimes when our one year old boy wakes up during the night and my husband tries to get me to get going and pitch in. I feel like he's calling me a lazy child that is more of a burden than a help and I haven't even woken up yet. Do you know what I mean?
2007-08-15 10:48:35 · 13 answers · asked by ? 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
raising a child can be very draining of precious energy,especially if the child is not on a schedule and wakes you up at odd hours and breaks your sleep cycle. Both parents should share the diaper changes etc. and realize some day these events are going to be pleasant memories that you will both Cherish! Any help from your husband is to be appreciated and not frowned upon. He also should not be annoyed that you are some times exhausted and depend on him from time to time! It is a joint responsibility and you should support each other.
2007-08-23 05:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by maur911 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt say he's thinking your lazy I think he may still be uncomfortable around the young 1 , I know when my oldest son was born 17 years ago when his dad would get up to him if I'd been up all night guaranteed by 7am he was flipping out the change from being a non parent to a new parent is the hardest thing for most people your used to waking up doing your own thing then all of a sudden wham your waking up and this tiny little persons needs comes above your own and some mornings it can be really overwhelming not that I have to tell you this you being the mother know more then anyone how overwhelming it can get sit down and chat to your man and try and work out a routine that suits you both where your both doing equal shares on the days when work doesnt get in the way remember your going through a really emotional change so dont take everything to heart and thats very hard not to do right now good luck
2007-08-15 19:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just need a boost. I'm sure your a good mom. I was on the other hand more like the husband. My man didn't do much after I had my girls and i gave him a hard time over it. Try getting yourself on a good routine. Maybe when your little boy takes a nap during the day nap with him so your not so exhausted. I have a 3 and a 1yr old and seems like I'm just now getting us all 3 in a routine. I get hardly no sleep now. But, I've adjusted. Things will get easier.
2007-08-21 04:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you so tired, do you work really late hours? I don't know about the other moms here, but I remember that all it took was one cry to alarm me out of bed for my one year old. The only time my husband would wake up first is if he knew I was sick. He was very good at doing what I needed, I just had to ask, but I wanted to be the one!
2007-08-19 22:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Jenn A on this one, but I am sorry, you do sound lazy, I would be making a fuss too, especially if you are a stay at home mum and your husband gets up everyday to go to work.......why cant I have a husband like you, and you are complaining. OMG
2007-08-20 21:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by missmichelle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In his mind when he helps it is a big deal ... He does not understand that you are the one that takes care of the baby 24/7 no matter what else you are doing, even when you are sleeping you are taking care of the baby.
Most dads think when they help it is just them and you dont help as much and should .
2007-08-15 18:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, we are both up with our little one in the morning, at 6 o'clock in the morning I might add. She thinks that is play time.
2007-08-22 11:38:28 · answer #7 · answered by laceyluedwards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha.... It is the opposite situation in our household.
It is my job to tend to the kids. My hubby works to put food on the table and a roof over our heads. He needs his rest.
It is your job to take care of your kids no matter when they wake up. You should be grateful that he helps out.
2007-08-21 01:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by threecherubs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your man gets up in the middle of the night!! wow i thought that was just a fantasy.
2007-08-23 07:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by yummymummy06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you working out of the house? If not get one. He'll understand real fast
2007-08-20 23:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by dolly c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋