2007-08-15 10:39:42 · 13 answers · asked by I, in wonderland 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Bring her a card, in person, and just be there for her!
2007-08-16 07:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, be supportive of your mom yet endure in ideas all and sundry bargains with dying in a various way. in basic terms enable her understand you're there for her and if she involves you, furnish her with words of convenience that are actually not pretend yet truthful, mothers can tell!!! she would be depressed, that's popular and can be envisioned. If she isn't depressed, you need to be frightened! in basic terms look ahead to indicators of severe melancholy or something out of the usually taking place occurring together with her besides healthful mourning. i'm so sorry; the date on my own is sufficient to make me cry. My father is likewise very ill and does not seem recuperating... As a lot compassion as you're showing in direction of your mom, you may desire to take time for your self too. you in basic terms lost your dad, and that i do no longer even might desire to inform you the way puzzling that is b/c you already understand. make certain you provide your self time to grieve and lean on close friends for help. i certainly wish a brighter day comes your way quickly.
2016-10-02 09:52:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just spend the entire day with her. Make sure she eats and that if she needs anything you can help. Answer the phone, receive gifts of food etc. That's really all you can do at this point. Your friendship and support will be a great help and comfort to her. Bless you for wanting to help, you are a true friend.
2007-08-15 14:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by D squared 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Between the death of her father and her birthday, the death takes precedence. You cannot say "happy birthday" and "sorry your dad died" together or in rapid succession. She isn't going to have a happy birthday and it would look callous to wish her one. The appropriate sentiment is something like "I am so terribly sorry to hear of your tragic loss. Especially today, on your birthday, my sympathies and thoughts are with you."
2007-08-15 12:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to her house and give her a hug. Offer to go with her to the funeral home. Offer to clean the house or run errands or go grocery shopping. Offer to take clothes to the dry cleaner and/or pick them up. Offer to pick up out of towners from the airport. Offer to go pick up lunch or dinner for her family from a restaurant. Ask her would she like you to just hang out with her, or would she rather you left her alone. If she wants you to stay, ask her if she wants to talk -- but don't be offended if she doesn't say anything. Don't try to cheer her up - it won't work, and you may make her feel worse. Tell her it is OK if she cries in front of you. When she cries, let her; don't try to make her stop. If you have a good memory of her dad, share it with her.
2007-08-15 12:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to help her do her mundane household chores while she comforts mom and helps out with the necessary arrangements. If she is spending loads of time at mom's, maybe you can offer to help out there.
Freeing the family from day to day chores will help lighten their burden at this difficult time. By positioning yourself in the household, you will also be within arms reach if she needs a shoulder to lean (or cry) on.
2007-08-15 10:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by Roy J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Let her cry on your shoulder. Let her share her feelings, or whatever. If she doesnt want to share - just sit with her. I lost my Dad a little over a week before by birthday - I did want to do anything!! I just cried alot.
2007-08-15 12:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh man... that's horrible! I assume she's not going to have a party, so next time you see her you should still offer her a present, as well as a long hug and a shoulder to cry on.
2007-08-15 10:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by Sarihime 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be what you are - her best friend.
Listen to her, hold her and cry with her.
Be strong for her, it's a lot to ask but you can do it.
That is one of the saddest things that I have heard on here.
I shall be thinking of you and your friend.
2007-08-15 10:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her in any way you possibly can...just your presence, availability and willingness to be there for her will be a comfort...maybe buy or make her a special picture frame for her favorite photo of him.
2007-08-15 11:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋