I'm serious! I've been disappointed in each and every relationship I've ever been involved in. Not only that, but I haven't dated often, but when things seem to be looking up in that direction, my hopes usually get dashed somehow. I'm just unlucky and I'm sick of it. I've told myself more than once that I'm giving up on dating, and then unfortunately, some guy comes along and changes my mind, only for me to get disappointed again! I'm absolutely sick of holding on to any hopes in the romance department. I'm tired of getting my hopes dashed time and again! Could someone please help me realize how great being single is and how being in a relationship can suck? And I don't want any bromide about how I should stay hopeful, either!
2007-08-15 10:09:22 · 19 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
....... ..... you just need to find someone to be single and miserable with...
come to think of it.. I'm single.. lets stay miserable together!
:)
2007-08-15 10:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by pip 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are your relationships ending? Thats what you need to look at....are they ending because you're expecting too much or too little from the other person. Or do you always put them on a pedestal at the start and they don't measure up to who you want them to be. Give us the reason why all of your relationships are dying out and we can help. Believe me staying single is not all that much fun...take it from someone who has had a lifetime experience in that department. If I'd had the chance I'd rather have been married for 20+ years than still be single at my age but life never had that in store for me. Later in life you'll realize that it's no fun coming home to an empty house every night.
2007-08-15 10:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by Goofy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll try not to give you the "bromide" as you requested.......
I know this sounds contrite but maybe, just maybe these guys just havent been right for some reason or another.......you might want to reevaluate what you're looking for in a relationship and how you go about obtaining it......it sounds like you might not really need any help at all giving up on dating.....you just have to convince, then continuously remind yourself that "dating is overrated" and you should be fine....I dont think "some guy" or any person can make you change your mind about anything, least of all your stance on dating......if you really and truly dont want to get disappointed again, you wont allow yourself to be put in that position again....simple as that, no matter what "some guy" may say or do
2007-08-15 10:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Saiyanman3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My my, hey there.
I'm single & happy as ever!
I'm glad because I've most things that I want & enjoy doing the things mostly. Choose to focus on something in your life current e.g. studies/career etc. instead of a relationship.
I would much rather be single than in relationships that's no passion, brutal, sad abusive & painful. It's all about compatiblity.
Instead of placing your hopes everytime for a dream guy & cloud9 & all the romance that've gone in the wind, instead try to widen your social life meeting more people & just be friends. Yes, take your time to build it step by step before commiting yourself to another level. Start loving yourself, don't just throw it.
I've obvious when one's vulnerable & don't let anyone manipulate you. It's honestly NOT sad to be single; despite whatever people say or judge you. Only you hold on to your own true happiness.
2007-08-15 10:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being in a relationship can suck. You lose sight of who you are. You have to do things the other person wants. You can't just pick up and go. You have to do stuff like communicate and bond. In a relationship you end up picking his stuff off the ground instead of just yours...and you end up doing laundry and cooking for two. You have to watch what he wants to watch. No more chick flicks or nights out with the girls even though he gets to go out with the guys and watch action movies. You have someone telling you what not to wear because they no longer want you looking sexy to other people so you become a stay at home dowd. Oh, and you won't cry if you're single because no one will say insensitive things to you like "that makes you look fat". Shall I go on or are you feeling better?
2007-08-15 10:22:44 · answer #5 · answered by mummy heffalump 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well what you need to know is that being single can be great. but what i think you are doing wrong is you are looking too much? you just need to go hang out with your friends have a girls night out with no guys involved at all. and you probably go for the same type of guys, try for something totally different, ignore a guy that likes you and he will want you even more, just try it. guys are harsh, and it can be hard, but all you have to do is hold your head up and know you will make it. but for now you should have a girls night like i said, hope your dating life goes well!
2007-08-15 10:21:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh just stay hopeful.
haha, sorry. That's probably the worst thing you could say, it's not even comforting.
I'm single right now, as of like 2 days ago. But anyways... single life, HEY we can look at all the hotties roaming down the street. We're free, we don't have someone calling us up questioning who we're with and such. You have the power to do anything you want without pondering if it'd be okay with your significant other. :)
Relationships... Boo! You're tied down, you're always worrying about hurting them or if you're doing something wrong when they're upset. Bleh, commitments suckk. :)
2007-08-15 10:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
WELCOME ! I have not had the best of luck in the field either.
Possible that I give to much, and expect so little. Don"t throw in the towel,just believe that it isn't you(Cause it aint). Being single is nice,got a cat and all,but when push comes to shove,would rather have someone eating steak or lobster than pellets in my life-(Not to say my buddy is bad co.).
P.S.-Aint no bromide-been looking for the right one for ,soon to be 45 years,and I,Like you(I believe)will settle for nothing less than the BEST, because that is what I deserve.
2007-08-15 10:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt stay hopeful, you should stop worrying about it.
Focus on being happy in your life as a single person.
You need to be happy single.
You cant be happy in a relationship unless youre happy alone.
Once youre happy single then consider dating, but dont go out looking for the one guy forever, go have fun.
If it happens it happens, if not; well, at least youre happy.
2007-08-15 10:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by Showtunes 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't suck in a relationship. I have a good relationship for 5 years now. before that, my longest one was 3 months. but before this long relationship, I didn't date for 3 years. just need to think about what went wrong. was it because of everyone you met was bad? or was it because of you? I was young and arrogant, but learn how to calm and change during those 3 years, now I have a good relationship. you just need some time to think about what the problems are.
2007-08-15 10:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by Carborane 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you??-don't give up on dating or true love-you just haven't found the right guy to date, I'm 36 & dated a number of women but haven't found the right one, it sucks being lonely, give it time, good luck.
2007-08-15 10:18:29 · answer #11 · answered by strange-artist 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋