if, when your child grew up she approached you to tell you how she used to sneak behind your back..?

Question

if your child, say in there 20s came to you and told all the things that they used to do to get away with things or hide things from you or just simply told you things that you never even dreamed that they had done would you feel, hurt, angry, would you find it interesting, or helpfull for your younger children. just how would it make you feel

i know that i phrased this a little wierd. i meant to continue the question into the detils but forgot and rephrased it

Answer 1

It totally depends. There are certain things about my childhood that i would only tell my mom to hurt her...nothing good would really come from it, so I don't.
But, there are other things about my growing up yrs that I volunteer, or my mom *asks* about, b/c she's still got my 10 yr old bro to finish raising, and he has a personality similar to mine.
As a parent of a grown child, I can't help, but from the child's perspective, I'd only share the things that are helpful.

Answer 2

i will empathize thoroughly. My hubby (married 14 years 2 daughters) has been laid off for over 2 years now. I artwork 40+ hours each and every week. I convey living house some million,200 a month. Sorry he grow to be being infantile. My husband did that once. fairly early in our marriage. He spent the final $50 (for 2 weeks) on an ordeal gymnasium club...I in simple terms approximately killed him. Made him pass back and get our a reimbursement. As for what yours did...Does he produce different video games, stuff he can sell? Pawn shops will often purchase procedures and video games. That or Craigslist is a good place to sell issues. Ask him to swap the money he spent. Then substitute the credit card # and save it faraway from him :) Oh and if this helps...My hubby and that i the two supply one yet another an allowance. We get $20 a month to spend on regardless of...

Answer 3

I would definately feel a little hurt, but what can you do? You can't be angry about it, It was in the past. I probably wouldn't trust them as much anymore. It is good that they came clean with you though, shows that they feel guilty about it. I wouldn't come down on your younger kids because of this. Take it as a learning experience and maybe it won't happen again....maybe. Unfortunately, that is the way the world works today.

Answer 4

I have done this with my parents. My reasoning is that they were so strict with me as a teenager, that I never did anything wrong. However, when I got to college and had no parental supervision, I rebelled and went down the wrong path. I tell them this so that they are not so ridiculously strict with my teenage sister. I guess I also resent them a little for giving me so little freedom when I was a good kid who got good grades, worked hard, etc.

Answer 5

My brothers and I have sat around with our mom and talked about things we got away with when we were younger. We had snuck out, come home drunk, had friends over when we weren't supposed to, skipped school, etc. My mother was amazed at the things we did but it didn't hurt her. We actually laughed at all the stupid things we did. What's done is done. Maybe she can help you stay ahead of your younger ones by giving you things to look for.

Answer 6

I'm 31 now and i admitted to my mother about a year ago,that the day my stepfather accused me and my cousin of sneaking out,was true.at the time,she thought he was lying and told him so,we didn't care we were kids we were happy..........but,she was mad all of about 2 minutes,she did reach over and smack me tho.
i wouldn't be upset,i think,everyone knows kids do things their parents don't know about,and yes it would give me a heads up on any other children...I'm expecting my kids will have quite a few things to say if they are anything like i was.oh,God,help me!!!!!!!

Answer 7

i would find it intresting and of course take it as advise for my younger children and hope i wouldnt be to easy going make the same mistake with my 1st

Answer 8

I think I would find it amusing...they are adults now and since they're ok, alls well that ends well. I think I would also be flattered that they think enough of our relationship as adult to adult that they could tell me things like that.

Answer 9

i told my dad about some things that i knew my sister had done when she lived in their house as a teenager.(she is living with them now again)..and all he said was really?? what does it matter when they are grown....its over and done with....

Answer 10

I guess I would feel grateful that she or he is now comfortable enough to tell me all those things.