my bf told me he has given up with me been together over a year but i told him i wanted to be with him to make things work,, so on thurs i asked him how he felt about me and what his intentions were and he didnt answer he hung up so about 10 mins later he called back and i asked him again he hung up so he hasnt called since thurs, so on tues i sent him a text message just saying hope all is well he replied hi then at 4 he wrote me an email saying i have been acting funny that is why he hasnt called and said how are things, i told him if he dont want to talk thats fine with me and i said i have been trying to be with you but you act like u dont care anymore so i said to him i gave up, told him hope he finds someone to treat him the way he wants in and out of the bed told him he should wish the best for me, like i am wishing the best for him, no response no im, no text. nothing from him, is he thinking about the situation or is he being shy/hurt or just ignoring me hoping i will go away?
2007-08-15 09:51:19 · 25 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, I would move on so you can start to heal. Best wishes!
2007-08-15 09:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by j c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me he's indifferent and is probably looking for a way out. No one can make you happy.You can only make yourself happy.Many Men and women alike wonder if the grass is greener on the other side. And unfortunately it is at first. There's nothing more thriling and exhilerating than a new relationship. The lovy dovy stage, I call it. When the experience is fresh and new. The feelings that grow.
Also, familiarity breeds contempt. The little things early in a relationship that he use to think were cute, bugs the hell out of him 4 years later. Show me the most beautiful woman in the world and I'll show ya a guy who's tired of her.
Long term relationships are tough work. Relationships are living breathing things. Like a plant, if you stop watering and nurturing it, the plant will wither and die!
Good Luck
2007-08-15 10:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, men come and go. And there are so many different types of men out there. Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Sounds like he doesn't know what he wants, so don't call him, that is what he wants you to do. Men have big ego's and that ego needs to be fed for them to continue with life as they know it. Unless, you have some age on you, then don't mess with their ego. Take your own advice. Find someone that will treat you the way that you want to be treated. My Dad always told me, "You can demand on how you want to be treated," and it took me years for me to actually do this, and it works. If they won't treat you right, step aside and say next? You'll be okay. Don't let one guy get you down, there are a million of them out there. You will find the one for you, when you least expect it.
2007-08-15 10:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he already told you he wants to get out of this relationship, right? and you said you gave up so he understod that you're ok with that.
I'm pretty sure he considers that you've made a clean brake by now, and as far as he's concearned your not a couple anymore...
I'm really sorry for this but you'll be alright, you'll find someone who like doesn't hang up the phone when you talk to him that's really rude and shows he das/had no respect for you...
2007-08-15 10:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by kiki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all i want to comment on the thing you said to him "i told him if he dont want to talk that's fine with me", it's clearly wasn't fine with you seen as you tried so hard to contact him and told him you wanted to make things work!!!!!
he may have thought you were interested but he was unsure if he was interested in you, so he was giving it a while to think about it, and then when he emailed you and you said that, he probably thought well, if shes not interested then whats the point in me trying now"!!!
if you were honest (which i dont think you were )then the outcome MIGHT have been different!!
so to answer your question, i think he might be hurt that you said that you are fine with not talking to him!!
good luck!
2007-08-15 10:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on. To me it sounds like he's really not into you anymore. You know what they say...."There are a million fish in the sea." Why get stuck with an anchovie?
2007-08-15 09:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by Haywood Jablomee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your both pretty immature in the relationship department, it's probably better that you stop seeing each other until you can learn to communicate on a more adult level.
2007-08-15 09:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all guys are the same... i think he is just hiding from you, because that is what they all do.... so give it about a week or so, if he is still being like that just stop texting him or calling him. if he calls you and e-mails you and texts you that means he cares, but let him show you he cares!
2007-08-15 09:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why in the world do you want to be with someone who's treating you with so much disrespect? Walk away with whatever dignity you have left and find someone better.
2007-08-15 09:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by EZ E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C S, You sound very level headed and mature, good for you ! He sounds like he has some catching up to do ! So if he chooses not to then it is his loss !
2007-08-15 10:04:55 · answer #10 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋