10 POINTS!!!! i'm a MUSLIM girl, who wears a scarf and always gets picked on because of it?

Question

i'm not that pretty so that doesn't help either. but my school is a very racist towards muslims. they always fine a way to make me feel like hell. i've told my parents but they don't believe me,and just say i want attention. i don't want to tell any of the teachers because if my peers found out, the taunting will just get so much worst.
so i've decided to fight back. i need something to say when someone makes fun of me because of my background, religion, or my scarfs. i need a couple good come back lines
i need to say things that will make them see that i'm not going take it anymore. and i'm not afraid of them. when acually i tremble at the sight of them.

Answer 1

I am a Christian, and am very sorry that you're going through this. Tell people who make nasty remarks about your headcovering that what you choose to wear is your own business. If they choose not to cover their heads, that's fine, but you do. Be gentle and calm when responding to them. No snappy comeback lines are needed. Be so nice in your dealings with them that they'll actually be ashamed to pick on someone who is such a good person.

Answer 2

What evil children you have at your school! You know, little children like that don't have brains that normal people can reason with and I really don't think you're going to get anywhere if you do say something. They'll just use it against you in the future anyway. I wish I give you a phrase that would stop them in their pathetic tracks, but the world doesn't work like that. I wish it did.

These bullies need to grow up and at this time I think the only ones who can help you are your teachers. When confronted without their packs to back them up bullies are cowards. You need to speak to a teacher who commands respect and will give each and every one of them a serious telling off with a punishment that will really bother them. I'm afraid it's the only way.

Oh good luck bab, don't let this get in the way of your school work :)

Answer 3

If you do wear a scarf because you are Muslim, then you are displaying your obdience, humbleness, and many other important qualities that your religion emphasizes about women. I am not Muslim, but I am a traditional Catholic young woman who wears a veil at mass and around the Blessed Sacrament. In my whole church I am the only one that does this (im not bragging by any means, just stating the fact) and I frequently get looks, questions, and sometimes even disapproval of it. Yet, to still hold true to the point and purpose of wearing the veil, I continue to do it, answer the questions when they come up, and ignore those who do not like it and yet still treat them with kindness. To keep true to yourself, your faith, and your traditions, you must always act with maturity, kindess, understanding, and a willingness to express your faith with pride. This list does not include reaching the low level of your classmates by "getting them back" with a witty remark. The more they do that, the more they know it bothers you, and then the taunting will never stop. Keep you're chin up and do what you know is true to your God and yourself. Ignore them, but if you cannot do that when they taunt you, say a silent prayer to yourself and keep your mind always focused on kindess, humily, and the true point behind this beautiful Muslim tradition.

Answer 4

What do they say? More importantly, what is your school policy on hate? Have you been reporting incidences? I can't believe your parents don't believe you - I'm sorry you feel you have to endure this alone. Remember that bullies COUNT on you to not go to authorities. They know the proper authorities will demand that it stop. There is no shame to go for help when you are already being targeted in a cowardly manner by so many fools.

Some points for people to consider:

1. If against scarves from a femnist perspective (I am feminist myself), it seems strange to tell women what to wear to counter a culture that tells them what to wear. Why hassle women when Sikh men wear turbans?

2. If against scarves from a xenophobic perspective, would they against all dress codes based on religion/identity? Like the Amish - few harrass them. How about Indians or any other culture that wears a head covering? Why do brides wear veils in Western culture?

3. I wore scarves to cover my bald head when undergoing chemo. Why is a headcovering acceptable for one purpose but not another?

The short answer is this:
"I wish you could see the hate that's on your face right now. It is worse than anything I could wear on my head."

"Thank you for educating me about what hate really means. Now I have more reasons not behave like you."

"I can always take off my scarf, but you keep your ignorance with you always."

Tolerance.org is an excellent resource.

Answer 5

What Julia said is disgustingly ignorant. The Muslim religion is actually very peaceful, and it's time people learn the difference between religious radicals and everyone else (and there are quite a few extremist Christians who have killed "in the name of God" or "because God told them to," I might add).

ANYWAYS, keep wearing your scarf and ignore the bullies. All they want is a reaction out of you, whether that means being visibly upset by what they say or by not wearing the scarf anymore. Keep your head up - you don't need to change for anyone!

If they keep bothering you, though, I would tell a teacher or counselor.

Answer 6

Aww. That's very mean.
=(

Because...
1.] It's America
2.] It's already 2007
3.] There's no reason to be racist to people because they wear scarfs and since they're ignorant (the people who make fun of you) they assume everyone who is Muslim as a terrorist even thought practically all of the people aren't.

The other student's parents should have taught them better, so they would understand how hard it is to be Muslim and the cliques you are forced to deal with.

Hopefully you will make some good friends that will stand up for you. My advice isn't very good, but I'm not really sure what else you can do.

Answer 7

Honey, I have spent two years of my life around Muslims in a Muslim country and I want to tell you that you belong to and come from a beautiful and almost universally peaceful religion and culture. DO NOT DARE say anything back to these people. It is unfortunate that American's have forgotten that we are a Nation of immigrants and none of us, save the Native American tribes, can claim otherwise.
These people who tell you to not wear the scarf are the same people who think that objectifying women in magazines isn't destructive to the collective psyche and general attitude toward women in this Country.
Please be proud of your culture and ignore these people and do the one thing which should let you know you are better than they are... forgive them.
Wear the scarf and obey Allah as your tradition asks of you and let the rest of the world go on around you.

Answer 8

You should report those jerks to the school personell. That type of bigotry should never be tolerated. Whenever they say something derogatory to you, go straight to a teacher and tell them what they are doing. You'll only fuel their desire to taunt you more by getting into a trash talking contest. Don't give them proof that they are succeeding in getting underneath your skin. See if your parents can enroll you in some self defense classes.

Answer 9

You need to tell a teacher honey...and a counselor. It is the schools job to protect you; trust me, you have a huge lawsuit on your hands if they do not step in and address the bullying.
For what you can do personally: 1. Talking back gives them a reaction...it will increase their bullying.
2. You need to make some friends. Safety in numbers and plus-you have someone to vent to when the other kids are mean.
3. Take a self defense class. You may never need it, but it should help boost your self esteem to *know* you could kick their sorry butts.
I'm sorry this is happening to you. I'm a teacher and if I saw this, trust me, there would be hell to pay.

Answer 10

There isn't a come back line that is going to make any of them change their minds or get them to stop saying crappy things to you. Some people just have small minds. You should be able to be whatever you want, believe in what ever you want. Unfortunately you will always have to deal with people like that, in school or out in the adult world. The thing for you to do is to know who you are and have faith in that. Be strong and never let them break you.

God bless.

Answer 11

STOP!

Do not lower yourself to their levels!

People can be very ignorant and closed-minded.. especially during your school years.

The best thing to do is to tell a teacher you confide in, OR the school counselor.

I'm sure there has to be at least a handful of people who don't feel the same way they do...

Start a tolerance group at your school, if it is okay with the administrators...

And don't listen to those who tell you to take off your scarf - you have a right to your own customs, traditions, and/or beliefs. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, and don't change for anyone!

You need to tell someone, because the harassing will get worse. By telling them a smart @$$ remark back, will only further infuriate them... PLEASE do not give them a reason to continue this.

Take care & God bless!