I had a great relationship untill?

Question

i started noticing him looking at other women, then even complimenting them... we had fights over it and now he doesnt say anything,but still looks and even turns his head over sometimes.. i dont wanna bring it up anymore cause we'll just fight again..he says i have nothing to worry about,that he loves only me.. and then at some point he started talking about threesome (FFM) all the time...until we had a huge fight over it...he doesnt anymore.. we've been together 2yrs now,everything is great,but i think i've become a paranoid bi*tch. i cant stop thinking about all this and feel like its gonna ruin our great relationship. he really loves and says he wants to be with me forever and he treats me amazing other than that. im so tired of hiding my feeling about this but afraid to tell him and to fight over it again.. i just want someone who will really appreciate what i have to offer and not desire something else....

he is in his thirties now and im 8 years younger..he does so much for me..its just this thing that really bothers me..i just wonder if this will always be like this

Answer 1

If I am out with a girl. I allways have my attention on her, thats just respectful. But don't forget.. we are still guys. We will find other girls attractive also. But if he does this while you are talking to him... dump him. That would make it obvious he doesn't care about you.

Answer 2

Threesome FFM would be nearly impossible unless the three of you just had the day to spend.... a guy can only do anything so often, even a young one. This guy may love you in some weird way, but he's got a wandering eye and mind and he's not hiding it, The rest of him will be wandering soon if not already.
You are right to be suspicious and unless you care to continue living like this then start dating someone else. if he gets bent out of shape about it, ask him to join the two of you and maybe he'll catch the clue.
Good luck

Answer 3

First of all does not matter who your man is, all men love to look, I have been married for over 7 years now.. I just let it go and, I am confident in myself, and I know were my man lays his head at night.... You might want to approach your boyfriend and say it makes me feel uncomfortable when you do this around me.... If he has to do, ask him not to be obvious about it... Not all men are dogs, but all men are in this way... No disrespect, but that's life....
As far as a threesome, you both are young and of course the curiosity is there. Respect his fantasies, but at the sometime you don't have to share in the act of doing them.... There are somethings that turn me on, and my husband does not care for it, and visa versa, my husband likes certain things and I don't. We just both respect each other and love each other enough that we both have boundaries and that's where it stops....
As far as him going out of his way to compliment the other females, is ridiculous, he should not be doing this around you or in front of you, let alone without you..
Just let him know that you trust him, until he gives you a reason not to trust him..
Sound like you might need a serious talk about what you both want out of life and see if your boat is traveling in the same direction..... Good Luck, Hope it works out for the better.

Answer 4

Hmm this situtation IS difficult and it seems that u and I are alike! Not that my man does that BUT I dont think its approriate for a guy to go to a strip club to Watch naked women and have them rubbin all over MY man. The thing is I guess I and YOU are "old-fashioned" we believe are honeys should only have eyes for us. RIGHT?! well I think when they look at other women Its not lookin at them imagining being with them. I mean havent you checked out other women? Even just thier face? Sometimes its nice to appreciate and admire a beautiful face. I doubt in that small instance that he looks at another woman hes think " oh **** i wanna be with her" no I think its just admiring a pretty face. The whole 3 some thing would piss me off too. I mean ur probably sitting there thinking why would my baby want to be ingaged in something sexual with another woman and not me??? I kno. But to be honest with you its probably the idea of seeing YOU with another woman that would turn him on. It could probably be exciting for him because its like something new for u two "three" to do in bed. Its kinda like taking it to the next level. BUT on the bright side it sounds like you have a really good man. He listens to you he doesnt bring it up anymore which means he respect what you want. So if thats the only problem you have with him then concider ur self lucky!! Hes just being a man, but a respectful one at that. So just tell him that you apprecaite him stoppin bringning it up... but that u still dont like that idea of him wanting too...

Answer 5

i'm going to try my best to put two unbiased perspectives on this and leave it up to you to decide

1.) on checking out other women- perhaps he isn't consciously doing it. i know sometimes i just kind of stare off and start looking at people which could understandably give that impression. on complimenting them- if he compliments them TO YOU, perhaps he is trying to subtly suggest that he thinks you may look good with this girl's hairstyle, or in that particular girl's style of dress. on the threesome- perhaps it was just something he was curious to try, and was trying to see if you'd be interested as well. i know a few couples who are into that kind of thing, and they're both perfectly happy and okay with it, but there is a defineate understanding behind it. he may have just been looking to expand both of your sex lives

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2. on checking out other women- he's lost interest in you and/or the relationship, and is beginning to seek and wonder what it would be like on his own or with other people. on complimenting other women- if he compliment them TO THEM, it was an absolutely terrible thing to do. if that's the case, he is sending a very clear message to you: i'm ready to move on. on the threesome- he's basically asking for your permission to cheat on you, and/or is actively seeking a way to start a sexual relationship with another girl.

these two perspectives are extremes. you have a lot of grey area to consider. think them over and see what you come up with, but always trust your gut instinct. the fact that he stopped after you confronted him about these two issues seems to me like maybe wasn't acting with bad intentions, but again, i don't know the whole situation. use your better judgement on this, and i wish you the best of luck

Answer 6

if your relationship was truly "great", you wouldn't be having all these doubts and worries. Does he try and reassure you? Do his actions and words match up? All guys will look, they can't help it, but looking at a woman and hitting on them/cheating are VERY different things.

If he isn't trustworthy, doesn't seem sincere, or has cheated in the past, let him go. But if you know he truly loves you, he has never given you a reason to doubt you, and everything besides your jealousy is great in the relationship, then you need to hang onto him and work on being more secure in yourself

Answer 7

Most men look at an attractive women, but for him to blatantly turn his head and comment about them right in front of you is down right rude. He may love you, but it does appear he is still young and has not fulfilled his sexual fantasies. You may want to really think hard before investing more into this relationship.

Answer 8

Give him something that will make him go crazy! Do something or wear something that he will find extremely sexy and show him that you are amazing. If that doesn't work then make him jealous... do the same thing he does right back and make it obvious. Then maybe he will get the point. And if nothing works, dump him. You do want to be with someone who only wants to be with you, right?

Answer 9

Both guys and girls check each other out, before, during, and after dating. As long as he's not doing it right in front of you, for example in the middle of a conversation, then he's just doing a natural thing. The saying goes:

"You can have my heart and soul, but not my eyes."

That's just the way life is.

Answer 10

Well, if you really want someone who appreciates what you have to offer and not desire something else, and this is not what he's doing, stop wasting your time with him. The right one will have trouble finding you if your not available. Best wishes!