Many women I know complain that society and men dont reat them like equals. They get mad when they or their friends are called whores when they sleep around and men are called players. They get mad when they are married to a man who believes that his decision overrules hers. They consider all these roles and stereotypes to be unequal. Yet I know very few women, including the beautiful ones who would decide to ask a guy out and pay for the whole date or pay for drinks for a guy at a club.
2007-08-15 09:06:52 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that is a very good point!!
2007-08-15 09:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by inyourspace8 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well I guess I am one of the few. I have asked guys out and paid. I had know them for awhile. Woman have to feel confident and many don't plus we have been taught that the guy pays.
I think not marriage is that very man rules. It doesn't really work that way. It is a process in a marriage to get results without over ruling each other.
I think respect for one another and equality will follow
2007-08-15 16:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
well, calling a woman a whore at the same time you call a guy a player for the same behaviour is stupid.
They should be mad if they are married and their husband thinks his opinion is more worthly than hers.
However, we still live in a world where women make 80-95% of what a guy does for the same job.
Also, consider this.
If a girl wanted to have sex, really, she could probably do it that night without too much trouble. A guy doesn't have that same guarantee without reaching into his wallet.
I still believe that guys should pay for the first date, but if a girl asks you out after that first date, it should be alternating.
2007-08-15 16:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by brettj666 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
You obviously are not meeting the right girls. With my current boyfriend, I was the one who asked him out, and I offered to pay on our first date. Everything we do together is usually 50/50, like a relationship should be.
There are a lot of materialistic, snobby people out in this world (men included), and some women and/or men for that matter think their sh*t does not stink and that they should be treated like princesses/princes. Personally, to me, you sound like one of those people.
Your question sounds hypocritical. You do not want to have to pay for drinks, dates, but you are expecting them too?
Like I said - 50/50 - the way it should be.
2007-08-15 16:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by Ready to Go Home! 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I don't think I know any women who haven't asked a guy out at least once. I know I've paid for my share of dates in my time. I've been married twice and, when they were unemployed, I've supported both of my husbands! So I certainly feel as though I've done MY share!
And beautiful or not, the fact remains that women still earn less money than men, most of the time. So usually, the guy pays when they go out, but the woman pays for the food and does all the work when she invites the man over for dinner. It all evens out.
2007-08-15 16:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by §αғịỳỳẩ² Ẫ†нэậ†ị 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Funny--I was always under the impression that whomever initiated the date (asked the other out) was responsible for the bill.
"They get mad when they are married to a man who believes that his decision overrules hers." -- that's not a healthy relationship.
Half of what you mentioned isn't even taken in the right context.
2007-08-15 16:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Most of the girls I know follow the rule of whoever asks, pays. So when the girl asks the guy out, she does pay. The problem is when guys are too cheap to pay and demand the girl pay, then try to act like they are "dating" and should get some. If he is too cheap to even take her out on a date, they are not dating!
But yes--whoever does the asking, pays! thats the rule. So if a guy asks a girl out and then tries to make her pay, yeah thats rude. She didn't pick the place. She didn't decide to go out that night. He did. He should pay.
2007-08-15 16:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Well, I do not know who you have been talking to, about who perceives women as you say whores and men as players, but it takes every kind to make the world go around, not everyone is like players or whores, you, my friend, have been talking to the wrong people.
When I met my wonderful husband fifteen years, ago, he paid for everything, and I did not have to whore myself out to get what I wanted, I was just myself, and he was not a player, he is an Army man, and Army men stick to their values!!!!
When they know of a guy who is a "player", they just let him make a fool of himself!
2007-08-15 16:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Women want to feel desirable and having to go after the guy may make her feel like he doesn't desire her. I have no problem paying for my share and if I am seeing a guy and want to take him out I have no problem paying for the both of us. I can see myself flirting with a guy first and casually asking him out. I cant say I can see myself approaching a man in a bar and asking for his number. I would feel desperate and fear the guy would reject me thinking I was some loser if I had to approach him first.
2007-08-15 16:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
I pay for dinner when my bf and I go out about half the time unless I am short on money that day.
2007-08-15 16:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Because it's like that old male adage, "You can't do what I do and call yourself a lady." When it comes to a relationship there are certain roles and a man wants his woman to play the role as a lady.
When it comes to business, yes we want equality, because I can do what you do and still be a lady, I may even do it better!
2007-08-15 16:12:05 · answer #11 · answered by patton19150 3 · 1⤊ 5⤋