If your niece or sister or some family member close to you hated you Would you be crushed???

Question

Please give comments and personal experiances

Answer 1

No, I wouldn't be happy about it, but I wouldn't be crushed. Remember, you can pick your friends, your family you're stuck with.

Answer 2

It depends, did you do something wrong? then yes
If i was innocent then it would bother me but i would be crushed.

I have family members who hate me and are jealous because i did not turn out the way they had expected. They expected me to be a teen aged mother or a school dropout like my other siblings and i disappointed them by actually making it though college. I don't treat them any different from others, i love them just the same.

If this is someone you can talk to then i suggest you do whatever it takes to fix it. As long as it is not hurting you that is. If this does not work then don't hold grudges. Treat the person as you would like for them to treat you and eventually they will come around.

Moreover, I dont think your niece or nephew hates you. You could try asking them why if you are convinced about this though.

All the best

Answer 3

My sister and I hated each other for about a year (only made up recently.) It bothered me, but I learned to just avoid her and the situation. This made it easier on not only me, but the rest of the family too. Im not saying it didnt hurt, but I was so angry with her that, at the time, I just didnt care.
I think that all family members go thru this faze, some get out of it and others dont. Its just a normal part of life. Not everyone, even tho you are related, are going to get along.

Answer 4

Not necessarily, since no one is really obligated to love whom they don't care to love. If in your case it matters very much to you to have the love of such a family member, then go about engaging them in conversation as much as you care and bring up the subject of hate, and how it seems to damage the hater more than the hated.

Try to let them know how important it is for you that the ones close to you are happy, and ask if you contribute to that happiness at all.

Of course_depending on your age, and theirs_words will just start to come up. And try to go about it all as natural as you can, especially without getting emotional in any way. If for some reason_and, again this depends on their age, and thus degree of maturity_they keep rejecting you. Or simply try to ignore you or show hostility. Well, then feel proud of yourself that you tried your very best, and go on living your very fruitful and happy life!!!

Answer 5

there is only one person in my family that likes me, and it happens to be my aunt. i was never what my family had in mind for a child and my mother could not stand me, she put me in any group home or hospital that would take our insurance, and when it was time for me to come home it would start all over again it would not be three months before i was gone again. and when the money ran out and insurance no longer would pay she gave me over the the state. by 16 i had been in eleven placements and was on my way to twelve. she had the state convinced that i was hurting her, and even talked my little brother into saying these things as well. everyone else cut themselves off from me when my mother told them that i was on dope and stealing. no one was interested in the truth or the fact that the hundreds of drug tests they gave me in the many hospitals were negative, she had turned them all against me, and i had no one.
It took me a long time but i finally realized that people like that should not be allowed my love, and i could be so much happier with out the negative influence i was receiving. so i made my own family out of friends and eventually my boyfriend and my son.
you do not need the negativity. if someone does not like you or gets mad that is their problem and not yours if they love you they will get over it, and if not their loss.
do what makes you happy.

Answer 6

Although I've never experienced a family member hating me, I can say that if either of my two sisters felt this way about me, I'd be destroyed. I love them too much to feel anything less.

Answer 7

Lots of people hate other people in their family. Just because someone is related to you doesn't mean that you will magically get along. All you can do is try to be neutral and not hate them back. When people get older they are more likely to let go of real or imagined slights from the past.

Answer 8

Not necessarily. It would depend on the circumstances.

For example, I might feel the same way about my family member as he or she feels about me, and so it might be a satisfying and fulfilling outcome for everyone concerned. In that case, neither of us would need to feel crushed.

I do speak from personal experience; that's as much as you need to know.

Answer 9

Crushed? no way. You can't control how someone else thinks of you. Sometimes what people base these things on are totally illogical. Nobody wants to be thought poorly of, but that's life. Just be yourself and don't worry about it too much. I'm sure they'll come around eventually.

Answer 10

my brother and sister in law didn't invite me to their wedding...and i didn't know about my very first niece until she was 2 months old; so how is that for someone hating you...and I have never done anything to them. whatever though.

i think they are jealous b/c my mom and dad do a lot for me and they didn't my brother b/c he chose to move out early and get married at a ridiculous age.

Answer 11

No, I would not be crushed. I would just find other family and friends to surround myself w/ that love me. You cannot make someone love you, even if they are your family. You just have to accept what you can't change. Be nice to this person still, just don't push them to like you.